SillySapienne
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it would be nice to sit back and of these days and say "When a guy says no, he really means yes." *wink*
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And that way you'll end up with all the NTs soooo every cloud has a silver lining !
Flirting is SOOO easy, I don't understand why you Ps make it into such a big deal.
Kinda like sex. Everything is big for those of us with a preference for Pness.Flirting is SOOO easy, I don't understand why you Ps make it into such a big deal.
Kinda like sex. Everything is big for those of us with a preference for Pness.
I think playful is the perfect word. That would explain why I didn't understand when people thought I was flirting and I was just being nice. Also, many people just want to believe that if you smile at them you are flirting with them. I smile at everyone.
It would also explain why ENFPs seem to flirt regardless of gender. It can just be a playful thing but people take it as flirting. Don't get me wrong, we can be flirts, too. It's just that the belief that we are always flirting is flawed.
You do it like this:
Hi mr.x i am not intrested about you in eny romantic way, i just wanted to hang out with you as a friend.
There is nothing rude about saying it straight, its rude not to say it like that. Sorry to let you know that you cant say that in this situation without hurting his feelings. Saying it straight like this you will hurt him the least and you will be least rude. If you do the magical enfp dissapearing trick you will hurt him more(maybe really really much more), but your just not there to see it. Not to mention how rude it is to dissapear without explaining yourself.
I dont even understand when boys are interested in me. I just dont see it.
Starts out that way. After a while you learn to identify the look they give you. That is, if you are in fact paying attention and present in this world. Still doesn't mean you understand what you did to get that look though.
I think that is why ENFPs end up flirting over the top.
Right. I think we can be clueless in this regard. Although, I do eventually become aware when some thinks I'm flirting with them. If I start getting the feeling that they're taking me seriously, I back off. Otherwise, it's a silly game. It's almost like how two NTs might shoot sarcastic or witty remarks between each other in a game of one upmanship.Completely agree. I seem to be flirting already without realizing it....
See, this is the where being a flirtatious person can backfire. If you are flirtatious most people assume that's just the way you are and does not reflect on how you feel about them.
I think if a flirtatious person gets extra flirtatious with you that's a sign.
Speaking for myself, I'm more direct. It's preeeeettttttttyy obvious if I'm really interested in someone. I am on it! LOL. Even though I'm not really sure what the definition or understanding of "flirting" other members are using here - basically I will make sure you know I am interested in you by taking it past flirting. Flirting is innuendo and joking and it's meaningless.
My advice is you should never flirting seriously.
So if I'm actually interested in you, I take you seriously? Or else I want you to take me seriously. Or both.