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So this means a directive F like like me wouldn't induce severe head trauma when "directing" people. I find the examples of directive communication styles to be more indicative of TJ than FJ. I usually soften my requests which probably sounds informative but it's not really.
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So if you're ExFJ, and directive, then that would eliminate the x, and you could only be E
NFJ. (ESFJ is informative. S/N is the "switch" so to speak, that changes the dichotomies that determine D/Inf, Structure/Motive as well as cooperative/pragmatic)
An essay that really helped me a lot to draw my conclusion was
Achilles Tendencies, the Essay. There, you see TJ's described as "the most directive", while FP's are "the most friendly", and TP's and FJ's "somewhere inbetween". The author does not even believe in Keirsey or Berens' model, or the factors associated with them (D/Inf, C/U, Str/M), but I then saw that it was Str/M that paralleled D/Inf, and produced those varying degrees when combined with it (and it helped me complete my comparison of MBTI with the FIRO system).
So TJ's seem "more directive", because they are
both Directive
and Structure focused! NFJ's are Directive, yet Motive focused, which softens down the directiveness. SFJ's on the other hand, are Informing, yet Structure-focused. So all FJ's will be mixed like that.