brightflashes
Member
- Joined
- Jul 25, 2017
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- INTJ
- Enneagram
- 5w4
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
I am curious as to how other NTs recognize when they are in love and if it's something one has to ponder over for days, weeks, months, or years or if it's something that one feels immediately and can instantly name?
I have noticed that being "in love" seems very unpleasant for me, although I admit that my understanding of what it means to be "in love" may be skewed by what society & poets say. For me, it causes me to prioritize in very wonky ways. Something I might usually treat as top importance may fall to the back burner, for example. I also equate being "in love" with sleep disturbances such as staying up too late and wanting to spend an unusual amount of time in bed. It can sometimes completely eclipse my thought and muddy my mind.
Or... maybe that's infatuation or a crush or something. Maybe really being in love is to be willing to fully celebrate another's unique characteristics, respect the facets of their personality (even if they're not quite understood), and also to fully embrace the desire to do just about anything to "make" the relationship work.
I've been (more or less) in the same relationship with the father of my kids for the past 15 years.
So what is love for you? And how is it identified?
I'm not certain that I've reached a suitable understanding myself, but I'm interested in what other people have to say.
I have noticed that being "in love" seems very unpleasant for me, although I admit that my understanding of what it means to be "in love" may be skewed by what society & poets say. For me, it causes me to prioritize in very wonky ways. Something I might usually treat as top importance may fall to the back burner, for example. I also equate being "in love" with sleep disturbances such as staying up too late and wanting to spend an unusual amount of time in bed. It can sometimes completely eclipse my thought and muddy my mind.
Or... maybe that's infatuation or a crush or something. Maybe really being in love is to be willing to fully celebrate another's unique characteristics, respect the facets of their personality (even if they're not quite understood), and also to fully embrace the desire to do just about anything to "make" the relationship work.
I've been (more or less) in the same relationship with the father of my kids for the past 15 years.
So what is love for you? And how is it identified?
I'm not certain that I've reached a suitable understanding myself, but I'm interested in what other people have to say.