Mal12345
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or just learn civility
Off topic!
or just learn civility
Off topic!
Well, mods are members too, and for that matter, we are members first. Then again, you are welcome to post your thoughts elsewhere, where the audience composition is more to your liking.Sometimes.
I'd take this to PM just to make sure they don't start something.
Civility off-topic? Heaven forbid.Off topic!
In a thread about Fe, at that.Civility off-topic? Heaven forbid.
That thought crossed my mind as well but I held my tongue (fingers) lest I appear to be stereotyping.In a thread about Fe, at that.
Like I said, everyone is actually out to get everyone else, and every smile is actually a lie.Why does that matter? They're not using mod powers for anything, they're just participating like regular members...
Like I said, everyone is actually out to get everyone else, and every smile is actually a lie.
You're not hiding anything, at all, ever, because you're an Fi-user. It's basic typology
A smile hides a hand that's holding a knife.
To be fair, every single one of the points I've made sarcastically sucks.Your typology sucks on this point sorry
To be fair, every single one of the points I've made sarcastically sucks.
If you're a dom or aux Fe type, you may have a problem that you're not even aware of: inauthenticity, which I loosely define as putting on an act for others, or being what others want you to be - or as my Fe-aux father explained it to me, putting on a front, a "personality" as he called it, which was something he highly recommended that I do.
Not only do you Fe types want to conform to others' social values, you want to be the best at it because (in 'Murica) that is also a social value. This seems to be a win/win living strategy because everybody benefits. You benefit when you conform to social values and are rewarded for it; others benefit because you often strive to put your best foot forward.
But you're lying. And inwardly, somewhere deep down, you know you're lying. Always and consistently putting your best foot forward makes you look good, really good. You may even be a pillar of your community. My ISFJ father was widely celebrated in his circles as a great guy. He would brag to me about how the judge let him off of his DUI charge because the judge said he's a great guy. And if I want the same special treatment then I need to be just like him when I grow up, invisible warts and all.
My Fe-aux father was not all that he was cracked up to be. He was living a lie, and in many ways that was also acceptable because all these other Fe types running society were also lying in pretty much the same ways, and still are. And he was never exposed because they rarely are. The judge let him off of the hook for a DUI. Society protects its own.
This isn't a thread about my father, it's about types who live a lie but find shelter behind society's rules. This is about the Fe function.
Because nobody is actually friendly. In reality, everybody is out to get everybody else. Charity is a lie. Did you know that the human face isn't actually designed to smile? That means that every smile is fake.
I can't read internet sarcasm - was this serious or not? It sounds like parody, but I've heard similar things said in seriousness too many times....
Sarcasm, totallyI can't read internet sarcasm - was this serious or not? It sounds like parody, but I've heard similar things said in seriousness too many times....
Forgive me. I have other Fe examples, not just my father. But let's lay that aside for now. Let's say you're not a two-faced drunk who beats his wife. I fully grant that there are Fe-dom and -aux types who don't relieve the repressed sides of their personalities by taking it out on others, committing murders like Fe-aux Richard Ramirez, or being immoral behind the scenes where nobody important can see it happening. Those are extreme examples. Still, there is a layer of something that you're hiding from yourself. I've known Fe types to completely submerge their childhoods, for example, although not volitionally. Whatever it is, you've pushed it out of consciousness and are using society to shield yourself from it. And it's going to come out in some way.