At the risk of being sucked into this maelstrom of hostility, I have to ask, because I'm bursting with curiosity: Is it even possible to ignore your gender? Aren't you confronted with it every day?
Others have responded but I will add my $0.02. We are confronted with our physical sex every day, to be sure. We are confronted with our gender to the extent that we don't fit the expectations of others and they take issue with that. Otherwise, no. I'm with [MENTION=360]prplchknz[/MENTION] on this. I'm female and don't mind being female but then don't especially identify with it either. To me, it's almost like whether I have long, straight blond hair, or dark hair in tight curls. Either is beautiful in its own way, but which one I have will influence how I cut, style, and care for it. I might wish I had the other, but I can find a way to work with the one I have. It's not that big a deal.
Yeah, I had a feeling that you as an INTJ woman probably tuned out the nonsense a long time ago. I'd personally just as soon obliterate the expectations than create new specific sets. That's probably pretty Fi-ey, though.
I'm not exactly sure what the question is.
I don't like being male though I don't feel female enough to do the surgery. Besides, I'm heterosexual, and I think life would be harder as a lesbian who underwent gender reassignment than an effeminate man in a very typically male body.
When I was a child, I didn't like being a girl, but that is just because I was surrounded largely by traditional gender role models, and saw options for girls as more limited. When I got old enough to realize I really could do whatever I wanted, I stopped caring. Yes, I have read that for INTJs it is much easier not to care (or simply to be oblivious as we go our own way).
Seconded. Just eliminate the distinctions between genders altogether. Why make the world more complicated than it already is?
Plus, do we really need to invent new pronouns to use when referring to people? Ain't nobody got time fo' dat.
I see the pronoun issue as much ado about nothing. Unless we are going to revamp the English language to replace he/she with a single pronoun, we should just stop attaching so much significance to it. If we get called by the "wrong" pronoun now and then, not a big deal. If we have a strong preference just ask, same as Michael might ask to be called "Mike". If someone is doing the opposite out of deliberate disrespect, that's a bigger issue than grammar.
I agree with the male/female/something else choices on forms, and also with not asking that question unless really relevant. (I think Australia recently added a third "neither/other/none of the above" gender category for passports.) That being said, there is something archetypal about the gender binary. That doesn't mean any one of us needs to force ourselves into it. Indeed, I see everyone as some combination of both. Someone who identifies as "male" is simply mostly male, or more male than female, or more interested/indentified with the male aspect, etc. The archetypal part means that many things in society come in complementary gender pairs. We are finally removing this as a restriction for important life matters like marriage and parenting.
But take, for instance, dancing. Many dance forms have a male part and a female part. Do we get rid of all of this in the interests of gender inclusiveness? Better to let the male and female gendered parts stay, and people choose which one to take. This gender "role", then, remains somewhat arbitrary, but has no purpose outside the activity of the dance.
Also, I will tell you one thing: you have no idea what I've been through or what I've done in my life so stop that petty projection right away, it's unbecoming. You do realize it's ironic you'd pull the stunt of using your own trauma as a pencil in order to paint yourself as such a snowflake because only you "know real pain and people who don't are simply shallow who misunderstand so how dare they claim rights to their own mode of self-expression and with that coming across as seeking special snowflake status," where I made no allusions at any given point about what I've been through in my life nor would I actually ever use it in an argument to justify myself or my position.
[MENTION=21639]Kullervo[/MENTION] can correct me if I'm wrong, but I read his comment to mean that people who fall outside the gender binary have no monopoly on suffering bullying or persecution. Anyone who stands out from "the norm" risks that. In that respect, each of us is a "special snowflake", just like everyone else, and may be singled out for whatever makes us special in the "right" time and place.