well if it's my trust your trying to appeal too then there's nothing to erode.
if - which i find more likely - you are trying to claim that i do, then the answer is absolutely yes. from the perspective of INFJs anyway - with both the ones that trust me and the one's that don't, it is largely being consistent that they associate trust not only with trusting someone to be reliable or honest, but rather trust that you'd think the best of them and not judge them negatively, or better said, they need to trust you to judge them the way they judge themselves, a desire which you expressed yourself (to determine your role in your own terms). since my general stance is that many seem to be incapable of judging themselves from the point of view of others, my perspective is inherently untrustworthy - i am threatening you with the suggestions of point of view judging you in a way that is inconsistent with how you judge yourself, but i am also arguing they are probably more valid.
haha, they can be "probably more valid" according to you if you want them to be. that's your business.
once again, you're using language that keeps saying judgment, judgment, judgment. we don't need positive judgment. we need compassion. that's a real need that many of us have and base our entire lives around giving and receiving. it's the way we fully feel like ourselves. it supports us to be and do the best we can, not just for ourselves but for others. it is our deepest source of fulfillment. sharing is more significant than judgment. it's more whole.
in rejecting from your universe all but yourself, who is it that you are meant to love
i'm sorry if you feel rejected, and that's on its own terms, and i don't know what else to say to that. in terms of what you're saying, i don't believe this true. i am not a particularly social person, so my sense of social space is less broad than many others. but there are many people who are deeply part of my reality, as i am with theirs. i do have an intense desire to blend and merge them. mine does not feel static, and it connects through even if is not reducible to consensual social reality. i'm okay with all of this, even the headaches and miscommunications and feeling like i'm going backwards with respect to other people's expectations sometimes. i do want people to communicate with me (and establish a record of doing so) in an adult-like way. especially adults. otherwise, i need to assess my responsibilities and decide how much i am truly able and willing to give.
1. take out a weapon
2. show it off to people
3. address those you find sexually attractive
3. talk about possible negative out comes
4. strongly express your desire
5. title the above love.
now let's see if anyone dares to call the act of love by any other name.
i appreciate the shock value, but i don't exactly see what you're trying to illustrate. it appears you feel threatened by something i am doing and feel forced into giving something simply because i want it? or are you saying that this is a template for my relationships with other people that has nothing to do with what you're personally experiencing right now and is instead a "likely" pattern for how all my real world relationships unfold?
and just to be clear: while satiric, it carries your exact pattern, whether your aware of it or not, the vast majority of your posts take very simple concepts and break them down to avoid common sense implications. if i'd met you years back i might have even being engaged by it, now i see through it: ofcourse it isn't love - neither this nor your description above - if the act of love was rejecting everything that doesn't fit your little emotional paradigm, the only remaining subject for you to love would be yourself - but then again since you aren't really acknowledging yourself beyond what fits your paradigm, it doesn't get to even be that. the act of sharing that paradigm isn't love, its marketing at the best of times and outright deception at most. you want to claim its the basis for honest relationships but in demanding that they'll love your novel character of yourself you aren't even giving them the opportunity to love whoever the f' you might actually be.
i do the bold quite often. i think this is actually kind of a type thing (Ni). i don't know if this is an "exact pattern," but it's definitely a big part of how i work through an idea or develop understanding. i don't know if what you're saying is that only "common sense implications" are real or worthy of consideration. i feel a judgmental tone, but i don't really see your point or your needs, so it's difficult to really do anything with this.
it's okay with me if you disagree with how i see love. like i said before, it feels like a kind of grace to me. i think the power to accept yourself as you really are is one of its most precious benefits. i don't feel like your story of me has anything to do with the reality of me, but i realize that we don't know each other very well. i think our ability to be open and create space for each other's reality, not a complete one but an independence from ours, is a hallmark of love. but i don't think fixating on a need to keep every possibility open to the point that it takes away our ability to feel ourselves as we really are, is a good thing (if by good we mean supports and promotes love rather than diminishes it).
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when the past is present"