LOL. I can be, but I don't have a whole lot of tolerance for players unless they are very up front with all the targets they involve themselves with and even then, I find it less than admirable and unnecessarily reckless.
OTOH, I think it's crazy that they don't seem to be teaching girls about players like they used to. A guy can straight up tell a girl that he's not interested in anything serious before they have casual sex and she will still be all "WTF??? I thought he liked me!"
Out of curiosity, why would it matter to you that the "player" be very up front with all the "targets" he involves himself with. Shouldn't it be sufficient that he is sincere with you, IF you happen to corner him into even asking.
I think the situation in many cases is this:
The lady wants more of a commitment.
She wants the man to ask for it.
She waits and waits.
He does not care for a commited exclusive relationship so maybe he holds out and doesn't mention it because he's still getting to know her and considers this still "dating".
She waits and waits.
They have fun.
She forgets the waiting because she is enjoying life.
She has a hunch.
She does things to hint.
He acts like he doesn't really understand because if she is just hinting and not being direct in the first place, then why should he set himself up for getting into a conversation that he started and didn't want to have in the first place because he is essentially happy "dating" and getting to know her. As in noticing how she is interestingly becoming quite intriguing with her non descript way of hinting at something she doesn't clearly bring up.
They change the subject.
They have fun.
She finally takes the risk and drives by your house to see if you are only. (invasion of privacy).
She keeps the secret hoping he confesses to her or the nightmare disappears.
He is oblivious to it all because he would not do it so has no idea why she would.
and on and on and on....
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And as for a guy that tells a girl that. Well he obviously is lacking tact. Why would he get into a philosophical conversation that alludes to his unbalanced moral conscience in regard to what he is doing in the first place?
I believe the don't ask don't tell approach keeps things where they need to be at the beginning of a relationship. The complexities of past, present relationships would only serve to damage or confuse the relationship you are in the process of creating. It's a Catch 22 because who says you even want to go that far with the person you are just getting to know in an intimate way.