hi there, I'd like to ask for opinions about this person and if maybe you could give me some hints about her type.
unlike the last time, I have a less clear idea this time, but I'll do my best to put down facts so that you get a better understanding
first of all, my guess. I think this person may be INFP, maybe ISFP, and would appreciate your insight.
of course, I am free to questions and comments, as long as they are some help
1) she's quite dreamy and looks out of it most of the time
if you turn to her, she will most likely ignore you, but not out of annoyance or misregard. she will simply ignore you because she's lost in her mind, looking for some stuff online or just daydreaming, provided that she is not sleeping at all.
and even when you get here to do something actual, she will always look for the way to sneak away from it, at least mentally.
what's more, she's very moody: if you insist too much on asking her stuff, she will become very anxious and start shouting, something you would never expect if you take into account that she'd been ignoring you until a second ago.
and she's not like this only in this case: always. one second she looks like the merriest person on the planet and the following she is trating you like shit.
2) she's always late and very untidy.
man, I tend to care little about cleaning up and doing dishes, but she's way more messier! she can turn the whole place upside down just to look for something and then go away, carefree of the mess she has done.
moreover, she tends to leave litter around, stick chewing gums under the table and that sort of thing, and that's pretty disgusting.
3)she works in a nursing home because she likes helping old people out
I've never got this one. she does not give a fuck about cleaning up the place and housework in general (in fact, I am a much better cook than her), still she claims to be caring and loves thinking that her job (as OSS in a nursing house) helps people out.
I mean, she cleans' old geek's asses, and still she loves it. if I were her, I would never do such an ashaming (and physically tiring) job.
4)she's VERY lavish and spends a lot of money on shitty stuff.
oh hell, that's the worst point. she claims to have some "plan" about her future, but in the end she spends all her money on shit and ends up being without money, and without a future, I would say. just an example: she tried entering university a few years ago, using some spare money she had, but not just she failed to pass the entry test (hell, she couldn't focus at all!), but ended up spending all her money on buying a new car, which she broke in an accident..... now that she has a job, she's still planning on going to university, but hasn't put a single euro aside to pay for the fees.....
on the other hand, she owns one of the biggest make-up collections ever O.o
5)she always seem smiling and happy, but deep inside she's quite blue.
well, she may always seem social and friendly, but actually she has few friends because she is quite awkward, and not many people like to have such an unreliable, unpredictable person around. one day you are best friends, the next she marries you, the following she throws your stuff out of the place.....
if you get to know her, though, you'll see that she's quite blue and dissatisfied with her life.
6)she 's always hoping for a change but in the end she does nothing to accomplish it.
once she had a boyfriend who mistreated her, and no matter how insistently we told her to break up on him, she wouldn't. someone may think this was love, but even so, she was always complaining about how bad he treated her, and how much she hated him.... still, when questioned about what she would have done, she tiptoed around saying she would have done something, which she hasn't.
7)I believe she tries being logical at times, but in the end she's dragged by her own feelings when making choices.
as I am very cool-minded and overall better than her at school and all that stuff, she's kind of always felt threatened by my logic and outward emotionlessness.
therefore, whenever she has the chance, she tries to outwit me, just for the sake of showing she's not the clumsy girl I always treat her as.
at the end, anyway, she ends up failing to keep a logic thread and gets emotionally touched. it looks like she hates me..... whatever XD
on a side note, she's always eager to provoke me. I don't know why, but she seems to like it when I lose my temper, and since I have little patience when she's around, that's not an hard thing to obtain.
8)she's as lazy as hell, and won't listen to you unless you shout in her face.
as I said before, she's the laziest person around, and won't do anything for you unless you bother her to hell. this does not mean she doesn't want to help you out of insensitivity, just that that is too much work for her.
9)she's atheist, although she seems to be struggling to find her own way to faith.
when we were kids, our mother forced us to attend mass on sundays. I've grown atheist since I was basically 8, and she seemingly followed a similar religious evolution, since she criticizes the Holy See and the Curch in general quite harshly (well, not has ruthlessly as me, still alot).
yet, when she's asked whether she is theist or not, she answers that she is agnostic, and that she would like to search for a deeper spirituality inside her.
10)she's very dependant from the people with whom she is in love, and end up having troubles putting an end to relationships.
she says that she prizes freedom, and that she doesn't want to be bound to one man, still she always finds herself framed into relationships she can't put an end to.
this leads her to feel bad and generally has mixed feelings for all her boyfriends.
11) even though she looks dumb, she's capable of putting up phisolophical discussions if provided with the needed calm.
unlike my mother, who is a very conservative, religious ISFJ, she is actually able to accept new things and to make logical discussions, as long as she is not under stress. still, she finds it hard to follow a consistent logic, especially when discussiong with me.
12)as she always is a bit depressed, she tends to settle for "the lesser bad", often not trying to improve it, as with her boyfriends.
13)she would like to learn many things and enjoys cradling herself in the misconception she could do it any time, still she often ends up slacking off all her spare time.
just like with university: she did fail to enter it once, but still thinks she will someday enter it, although she doesn't even apply for it, nor she studies on her own to make up for her lack of scientific knowledges.
14)she is often outspoken when it comes to sex and sounds incredibly uninhibited for an introvered person.
that's weird. she rarely speaks about her own feelings (at least to me), but she loves to talk about sex, maybe because she knwos it makes me feel uneasy....
15) when she feels happy, she becomes relentless and loves jumping around and making a lot of noise (which I deem childish and annoying)
she can stay up the whole night dancing like crazy, as if she had taken some sort of drug, just for the mere fact of being happy.
I know this information may be little, but I'd like to hear you opinion anyway