My brother-in-law of 29 is an ISTJ. He's just been dumped by his ENFJ girlfriend of 25. They've been together for 7 or 8 years, living together for 3 years. He was very comfy with himself and their relationship, she wasn't. She apparently needed more passion in every sense of the word.
None of the family have really been able to speak to my brother-in-law since the break up (3 weeks ago). We can't reach him, he won't pick up his phone, won't call back, won't reply on e-mails. He seems to have imploded completely. He's a typical 'boys don't cry' person, but it's obvious that he's very hurt. Complicating is that his now ex-girlfriend is an easy talker, so we know a lot from her (the reasons for the break up, the fact that he's hurt even though he doesn't show it) and I'm worried that he might be angry for us talking behind his back (this might just be my INFJ-ness).
Anyway. I wouldn't mind of he really doesn't want to talk about it (although I find it a bit unhealthy, but we can't force him). I would just like to know how we can support him. In whatever way. So ISTJ's, how would you like to be supported by your family if your heart was broken?