ESTJs usually have a great deal of malicious intent toward anything that doesn't fit their view of what something should be. I can get around that though, through the mutual use of Te. They have a no-bullshit attitude that I can genuinely appreciate.
An ESFJ, now there's someone that I will never quite understand. So I go into caustic INTJ mode. It's really the only way for me to be comfortable around them. Most ESFJs will tell you that I'm not so much wired, but a complete asshole. I don't get them, honestly I can't wrap my head around how they think. Fe is something that eludes me. In theory, I get it, but in reality not so much.
So my logic in dealing with them being; I don't understand it, therefore I cannot accurately predict or quantify their actions. This makes them a HUGE unknown, therefore a threat (because of my basic insecurity and more or less fear of rejection/control) in any situation. I can, however, accurately predict anger in almost anyone. I don't understand them, so I take them down to a level I can. Even detrimental conflict is preferred to unbridled ambiguity.
So maybe I've exaggerated a little here, but that's more or less how it is.
(The above is usually pertaining in a work environment, or any other environment that involves competition. Outside of work I really couldn't care less, we usually get along pretty well)