the 5 of us were at the bar, drinking green beer and guinness and i hadn't seen this particular girlfriend for a long time. the rest of the group consisted of guys. as soon as i saw her and asked how she was, she rolled her eyes and said meaningfully, "i'm okay now, but i really need a beer." well, there were like 2 conversations going on animatedly, and we all got caught up in the rhythm and flow of give and take, but there was that ?nagging? feeling in my mind, pushed back a bit, that i really wanted to f/u on my friend's remark, to make sure she was okay, and didn't intend something deeper by her response to me. i know without a doubt most people would not obsess over her offhand remark, and would take it at face value as it is usually intended......but since i was only able to be out for about an hour, it was a pressing priority that i find out soon if my friend was indeed 'okay.'
i finally put my hand and her leg and asked her pointedly, "is everything okay, or is something up with you?" well, of course nothing was really wrong, but i had just needed to make sure!
i guess that's Fe. ? i agree the cascademn post that i wait and don't assert my opinion if someone else is more opinionated than i am, or i'm not sure. i just don't need to. it's not a priority to me usually. sometimes i will feel passionately about something and i will speak heatedly about it. but now that i think about it, that's usually with people i know fairly well, although not always. i definitely care more about others' feelings than asserting my own.
i am not a faker in any way. i abhor faking as i HATE to waste time. i like deep conversations and try to avoid chit chat at all costs. i'd rather not talk than have small talk, but i know a small amount of it is necessary in our society.