I really don't care if someone chooses to engage me in conversation or not. My disappointment comes from not being able to complete a task that I feel I should be able to complete. This is the severest of let downs for me. It dials into my very self worth. Which is why I asked about the ENFP parallel, since you guys are so people focused.Having said that, I think our disappointment is that likened to ENTPs and debate. I've heard ENTP friends online and offline say they're disappointed when people don't want to continue debating a subject that they're interested in. It takes two. Similarly, ENFPs are likely disappointed when people are not motivated to continue working on an interpersonal relationship, whatever the relationship may be (friend, family, partner). It's different types of engagement but the perseverence reflected is similar. In either case, one person can't make a difference to the outcome. Pushiness in the emotional realm would actually be quite contrary to an ENFP's perception of people and their prerogative to make individual choices.
But if I am talking (or "debating" as everyone calls ENTP talking) to someone and they call me pushy, I am usually pretty stunned. I have no idea why I am perceived that way but I can be. To me, as long as you keep talking, you want to keep talking. You wouldn't if you didn't. I would never speak about anything if I was asked not to. *shrugs*. I guess I am not aware of how people can perceive me either.