Si than Fi.
Again, sounds more like Si than Fi. Fi is more about reviewing and refining our own personal beliefs and values about the information we take in. Si is more about linking sensations with previous memories, emotions and impressions.Thus, let's say I'm walking around an empty museum and I listen to the echoing clatter of my steps, and I get a sense that I've heard that sound before sometime in the past. If I keep listening, I may even get a sense of foreboding and dreariness from the sound (i.e., emotional content appears). If I want to pursue the sensation further, I may keep walking and listening, speeding up and slowing down my steps, repeating the sounds and rhythm that seem to have the most "resonance," until I suddenly remember walking down an empty hospital corridor as a child, ill with some sickness and not really paying attention to my surroundings, but also vaguely dreading the unknown treatment that awaits me at the end of the corridor.
From the Si description I linked to: ...Sometimes a feeling associated with the recalled image comes into our awareness along with the information itself. Then the image can be so strong, our body responds as if reliving the experience. The process also involves reviewing the past to draw on the lessons of history, hindsight, and experience...
In my experience gut feelings come through intuition instead analyzing and it comes without thought, just is there. It is when I analyze the gut feelings that the gut feelings become less clear and sure and muddied up with emotions, fears or desires.FineLine says: On the other hand, using associations and memories is a fast and efficient way of analyzing and making decisions. It's how people get a "gut feeling" about something. If a certain experience has repeatedly left you with a bad feeling over time, then to a certain extent one can use that "bad feeling" as quick input for judging how best to react to a situation as it arises.
A good way for me to tell the difference between Si based fears and a true gut feeling coming through intution is that the gut feeling comes loud and dramatic with lots of rationalizations to back it up. There is a manic, panic feeling to the fear feelings that are based on Si. The true gut feelings come more quiet and sure, calm. They don't come with any rationalization attached to them. I can accept it or reject it without it presenting me with any case pleadings from my emotions or thoughts.
I agree about fears, not about true gut feelings. Whenever I have ignored a true gut feeling, I deeply regretted it.FineLine says: But obviously INFPs should also realize the fallibility of "gut feelings," especially ones that go all the way back to childhood.
I still see this more as a function of Si, not Fi.FineLine says: Thinkers usually at least register the existence of strong emotions (disgust, hate, love) and probably register the rare flood of memories associated with a certain taste or smell. But they will probably dismiss outright the weaker emotional associations attached to touch, hearing, and sight. Fi people can dismiss them just as effectively. An Fi person may simply be too busy or occupied to pursue a weak emotional association that pops up while walking down the street; or, having pursued the association, he may determine that a childish memory or emotion that was dredged up is too old and simplistic to be of any use and dismiss the whole thing.
But much as Thinkers like to analyze for the sake of analyzing, Fi people may dabble in old emotional associations for fun. Particularly ancient and vague emotional cues can be fun to unravel as mental exercise; and for the connoisseur, old emotions can come in a variety of "flavors." The recovery of an old childhood memory can yield a sense of surprise and nostalgia.
Some Fi people may not bother to chase down old memories and may simply enjoy the interplay of emotions at the back of their consciousness when experiencing a particularly rich environment (one that has a lot of sensual cues to trigger associations). For many Fis, the emotions are the more interesting part; by comparison, the memories may involve work and may be much less interesting. When Park describes listening to music, I think she is describing an experience of enjoying the emotions triggered by the music without going into the past to determine what specific past experiences linked those emotions to those tones or percussion or style of music. (That's a perfectly acceptable use of Fi.)
Some of this is Se, which is something that INFP do need to work on developing but some say it is a shadow function for them and that they need to be aware that they can be "tricked" into thinking they have a greater grasp on things like Se than they actually do and so I would think that it would be better for the INFP and others who have Se as part of their shadow functions to always be aware of this. Some have said can be fooled into thinking they have more Se than they do.FineLine says: Furthermore, as they get adept at playing with emotional cues, Fi people can play around with the external emotional cues of others (body language, vocal cues, choices of words) or even extrapolate themselves into the emotional crises of others in order to see how they themselves would handle the situation.
I am not sure I agree with this. An mature INTP with a more developed Fe may very well have a better advantage over an INFP with a well developed Fi and Si the area of communications skills.FineLine says: Also, becoming adept with emotions obviously gives Feelers an edge in communication skills. By ignoring emotional cues, Thinkers clearly put themselves at a disadvantage in that area.
I don't believe there is a idealized place like you describe to be found here on earth to run away from truth to. The only way we can create a better world is through working on our own selves as individuals no matter what our 'type' happens to be. We cannot hide from our own shadows and seek some sort of security blanket because to do so abdicates our responsibility as sentient beings and is the biggest reason the world is so messed up today..FineLine says:..INFPs probably can't enunciate what they hope to achieve with these emotional experiences; with no justification for their quest, they can take on the appearance and even the habits of emotional junkies. But given the nature of Intuition, I suspect INFPs would ideally like to understand where their fears and emotions first arose and then weave these emotional scraps and understandings into a kind of childhood emotional safety blanket. INFPs often hearken back to an idealized infancy of peace, tranquility and acceptance: a kind of pre-individuation personal Garden of Eden. INFPs often talk of a feeling of "innocence lost" and a quest to return to simpler times and merge themselves back into a larger, more comprehensive consciousness. Emotional associations seem to be the path for them.
As humans if we want to see where our problems come from, we need only look in the mirror, one by one, by abdicating this responsibility to seek our true inner selves we have given permission for the basest desires of the mass collective human ego to become manifest in the world. The more we run from this, the more we give our consent to this.
I have worked hard to understand where my emotions have come from, how my childhood has affected me. The truth of it provided no warm fuzzy security for me, only learning to built a new foundation for own self has done that. I do not remember a time of an idealized Garden of Eden that I want to return to, instead I was forced to knock down many fantasy bonds I had been holding up. Much of this was done during my 20s. It is interesting to read that is the time when Si comes on very strong for the INFP and this hunger to review and transmute the old emotional experiences comes to a head.
My goal in my life now is to seek out my shadow traits, my egotism, any false ideas, unhealthy cultural conditioning and transmute them into something better. I want to find truth and I want to become a person who can accept truth for what it is and face it.
What good is a security blanket if it is fake?
I tend to think the most common pitfall the INFP can get into is what was described in this article: moreso than the wanting to run to a cozy cocoon. I think the reason is that the INFP mistakenly believes the fastest way to make a difference in the world is by trying to convince others. The INFP soon comes up against the brick wall of the rest of the world in doing so and ends up feeling like a failure and hating the world for being brutal and uncaring.
The only way to change the world is to start first with ourselves, no matter our type and then to take what we learn about ourselves out in the world as example and inspiration to others. It is better to find kindred spirits and work to change a small part of the world than try to convert masses of people not ready for change to a more like minded way of seeing things.