Giggly
No moss growing on me
- Joined
- Jun 12, 2008
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- Enneagram
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- sx/so
In the last year and half I have learned more than ever that there is a window of opportunity when dealing with people.
Of course I've always known this instinctively and heard it said many times before but the power and reality of it has really been driven home in the last year to me and I doubt I'll ever be the same because of it.
In this context the window represents a persons willingness to connect with you. The window is either opened or closed and there is no in between. Someone may be slow in the process of sharing even though their window is still open, or Someone may be polite to you but their window is still closed.
I've learned that recognizing when a persons window is open is vital, and even more important, recognizing when it's gone from open to closed.
One should never assume that a window will always be open. That is a mistake, and why it's called window of "opportunity".
When someone's window is opened to you, it is an opportunity. An opportunity to get to know them. It is a gift. And it's not going to be open forever if you don't seize the moment and make the right moves at the right time (when they are open to them).
When windows close they close naturally, and generally, they don't reopen. This happens on the other persons time, not yours, but if one gets lucky and the other person reopens their window, it won't ever be the same; it won't be as pure and precious.
So this is why it's so important to me now to acknowledge this. I see windows of opportunity this way now. They are special and never promised to stay open and I am thankful to have learned this lesson this year.
Of course I've always known this instinctively and heard it said many times before but the power and reality of it has really been driven home in the last year to me and I doubt I'll ever be the same because of it.
In this context the window represents a persons willingness to connect with you. The window is either opened or closed and there is no in between. Someone may be slow in the process of sharing even though their window is still open, or Someone may be polite to you but their window is still closed.
I've learned that recognizing when a persons window is open is vital, and even more important, recognizing when it's gone from open to closed.
One should never assume that a window will always be open. That is a mistake, and why it's called window of "opportunity".
When someone's window is opened to you, it is an opportunity. An opportunity to get to know them. It is a gift. And it's not going to be open forever if you don't seize the moment and make the right moves at the right time (when they are open to them).
When windows close they close naturally, and generally, they don't reopen. This happens on the other persons time, not yours, but if one gets lucky and the other person reopens their window, it won't ever be the same; it won't be as pure and precious.
So this is why it's so important to me now to acknowledge this. I see windows of opportunity this way now. They are special and never promised to stay open and I am thankful to have learned this lesson this year.
