ChocolateMoose123
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You can't argue with anyone with extreme bias. Are you seeking to understand them or change them? You cannot change their minds without understanding them. So, it is better to question.
Why do you believe xyz? Then go from there. It often gets personal and you can see how or why they came to believe the way they do.
I like doing this in person more than online. You get people telling you their experiences. It's actually humanizing. If I really disagree with them, I pose my questions like, "What do you say to people who say "insert factual or differing opinion"? Or sometimes I share something from my own experience that counters their opinion.
Putting a face to a belief is harder to deny or ridicule. You may not change their minds, but you earn a respect. That respect is not there online.
They can leave saying I don't agree but hey, the person I just met who has that opposing opinion was pretty cool.
Why do you believe xyz? Then go from there. It often gets personal and you can see how or why they came to believe the way they do.
I like doing this in person more than online. You get people telling you their experiences. It's actually humanizing. If I really disagree with them, I pose my questions like, "What do you say to people who say "insert factual or differing opinion"? Or sometimes I share something from my own experience that counters their opinion.
Putting a face to a belief is harder to deny or ridicule. You may not change their minds, but you earn a respect. That respect is not there online.
They can leave saying I don't agree but hey, the person I just met who has that opposing opinion was pretty cool.