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Well, we played the song I wrote today.
It went great, I was told, though maybe a tad slow, but that's better than too fast.
A lot of people let me know afterward that they liked it a lot, and a few suggested that perhaps we could add it to the repertoire of songs we sing on Sunday mornings.
The most meaningful compliment I received was from my pastor. He told me he's been singing it to himself for the last 3 days since we practiced it on Thursday!
Practice before church was not free of its tense moments. The drummer and I had another run-in. He was playing it so fast, I was rushing through the words. I asked him to slow it down, but he resisted. I came right out and said I hated the song that way. We kept on going, and I felt myself emotionally disconnect from the song. But I figured it was no great loss since Xander and I have recently discussed a weird phenomenon of things turning out better when you don't try so hard. So I just figured, Whatever. I have to sing the song. I'm stuck here.
Before I sang the song, I shared a mini story of how I came to write it and why it was so important to me, so people would know where I was coming from, so I think that's why they were extra encouraging when it was over. I've actually never heard so much hooting, hollering and whistling in church before!
So like I said it was slower than we practiced. That was good but then I was all distracted with whether it was too slow or not.
People liked it, but that didn't really matter to me very much. I wasn't looking for approval. As a matter of fact, I was expecting people not to like it. The reason for that is that when I first wrote it, I made a demo of it and emailed it to the drummer. He said he didn't like it. It kinda hurt my feelings, though I'm trying to not let stuff like that get to me. So I figured it was just one of those songs that was just between me and God.
I did change a couple of the things that he critiqued after I had the courage to ask him about it, but what I learned was that he's not a good person to ask, since he didn't know how to accept the song for its concept. He could have just as easily said, "I really like the song except for this one part, I would like better if you did such-and-such instead. What do you think?" Not - "I don't like it."
Live and learn.
It went great, I was told, though maybe a tad slow, but that's better than too fast.
A lot of people let me know afterward that they liked it a lot, and a few suggested that perhaps we could add it to the repertoire of songs we sing on Sunday mornings.
The most meaningful compliment I received was from my pastor. He told me he's been singing it to himself for the last 3 days since we practiced it on Thursday!
Practice before church was not free of its tense moments. The drummer and I had another run-in. He was playing it so fast, I was rushing through the words. I asked him to slow it down, but he resisted. I came right out and said I hated the song that way. We kept on going, and I felt myself emotionally disconnect from the song. But I figured it was no great loss since Xander and I have recently discussed a weird phenomenon of things turning out better when you don't try so hard. So I just figured, Whatever. I have to sing the song. I'm stuck here.
Before I sang the song, I shared a mini story of how I came to write it and why it was so important to me, so people would know where I was coming from, so I think that's why they were extra encouraging when it was over. I've actually never heard so much hooting, hollering and whistling in church before!
So like I said it was slower than we practiced. That was good but then I was all distracted with whether it was too slow or not.
People liked it, but that didn't really matter to me very much. I wasn't looking for approval. As a matter of fact, I was expecting people not to like it. The reason for that is that when I first wrote it, I made a demo of it and emailed it to the drummer. He said he didn't like it. It kinda hurt my feelings, though I'm trying to not let stuff like that get to me. So I figured it was just one of those songs that was just between me and God.
I did change a couple of the things that he critiqued after I had the courage to ask him about it, but what I learned was that he's not a good person to ask, since he didn't know how to accept the song for its concept. He could have just as easily said, "I really like the song except for this one part, I would like better if you did such-and-such instead. What do you think?" Not - "I don't like it."
Live and learn.
