so i'm an INFP...

[halfaninstant]

awesome - so i am INFP. i take back the last post regarding INFJ. Though i still feel that personal self worth is a universal key to happiness, each personality type defines their self worth differently. As such, please regard the previous post as referring to INFP.

Also, as i was going through the process of figuring out my type, i find there are often misunderstanding as to who we are. Granted it is usually because we are immature in our view of the world and our ability to interact with it.

So... I just want to add that as an INFP, it is essential we maintain an impartial view of our understanding of the world. To think we know everything is immature. It is good that people disagree, as long as the disagreement leads to greater understanding of the complex patterns that govern our world. argument for argument sake is pointless posturing.

it is also absolutely critical that we maintain a truthful view of who we are. this is hard and takes a lot of practice. we are often blinded by our own sense of virtues.. our intentions. i suggest taking cues from the world around you - how people react to you. our actions reflect our inner view of reality. of course they are guided by our sense of what is right and wrong, but that sense may be incomplete. seeing how people react to us, and asking why they feel that way, enables us to better align our actions with our purpose.

i can't imagine why anyone would not like to be around an INFP! We're freaking awesome =D GO INFP!

 

[disregard]

Eh, a stressed and irritated out INFP is not fun to be around. Te madness.

 

[disregard]

Eh, a stressed and irritated out INFP is not fun to be around. Te madness.

 

[halfaninstant]

i've never found it too difficult - if you're honest to yourself, you rarely, if ever, have to employ Te. You don't even need to employ it much - just keep in mind repeated issues that comes to surface with the same people you care about. once you notice it though... good luck. sensing something wrong doesn't mean you acknowledge it.

I think i've had to do it twice so far - the first caused me to realize that self-deceptions exist and can be horribly difficult to spot. fixing it though gives you a sense of harmony like nothing else. the second made me more aware of the other person's feelings and how they perceive my action... that though i act one way, they interpreted it another. i changed how i act toward them.

 

[halfaninstant]

i've never found it too difficult - if you're honest to yourself, you rarely, if ever, have to employ Te. You don't even need to employ it much - just keep in mind repeated issues that comes to surface with the same people you care about. once you notice it though... good luck. sensing something wrong doesn't mean you acknowledge it.

I think i've had to do it twice so far - the first caused me to realize that self-deceptions exist and can be horribly difficult to spot. fixing it though gives you a sense of harmony like nothing else. the second made me more aware of the other person's feelings and how they perceive my action... that though i act one way, they interpreted it another. i changed how i act toward them.

 

[heart]

Wow, that would be a luxury to be able to avoid Te. It shadows me all day every day, worse and worse since turning 33. There's really no escaping it.

On the other hand, to be totally impartial all the time would be too damned exahusting. Fi takes most things in personally and really it is where all the joy comes from, the euphoric highs.

Many people find Fi "oppressive" and I take that as why they might find the INFP a little less than desirible to hang out with.

 

[halfaninstant]

oppressive? becuase of our preferrence for conversation with depth?

yeah.. i notice that - makes me want to shut up when i notice people don't care about my topic. *shrug* nothing great about one sided conversations for sure.

i'd rather meet new people in a group setting... i can just get quiet and let all the other extroverts talk... only commenting when there is something worth talking about. and if there happens to be someone who enjoy talking about something worthwhile, i ask to hang out at a later time over coffee or something.

 

[heart]

It's not about conversation really. People say they can feel the feelings of the Fi dom even when the Fi person is quiet. That's what I have been told.