To state the obvious, I'm attracted to the person, not the type. But as a pattern, I'm most wildly attracted to 8s and 6s. Even without knowing enneagram before, I look back on my life and 8 and 6 constitutes most of my major crushes and connections. There was also a 4.. and that was profound.. but we were so alike it was uncanny. The scariest and most powerful thing about it was that I saw myself in him and learned so much about myself. But that was something that needed to happen at that time, when we were both lost. Being more healthy and having found myself again, I think it's unlikely I would be attracted to a 4. I could picture any other type working out (depending on the person).. but I haven't encountered anyone that drives me as crazy - for better or worse - as 6s and 8s thus far. There is always conflict, but when a true challenge mixes with loyalty, respect and carnal attraction, it is a recipe for inspiration, fire and delicious sex.
I am heavily demisexual and I need someone who is willing to invest in me as a person and get to know me for who I am without any expectations. 6s and 8s both seem to want to be sure of who someone is and take time to build trust for different reasons. This is attractive to me. I don't want someone to come onto me day one. I have had gorgeous men (of any type) do this in the past but it's a turn-off. The ones I fall for are those looking for something deeper.. a real connection, trust, and loyalty. With these two types, I feel a balance of them having something I lack, but also me having a role; having something to offer. To oversimplify it, 6s push me to the next level mentally and creatively, and 8s push me to action and to express myself more simply and plainly (not just in art), and get right down to the heart of things and what is real and important. It seems I give both types a safe place to be themselves and express emotions, to feel comfortable being more vulnerable, in different ways. Trust is crucial for anyone, but especially for reactive types. They are less put off by me expressing negative emotions, carrying on about my past, or feeling like I will be rejected for who I am.. but can relate to my push-pull and work with me in a better rhythm. Hard to explain in a short paragraph, but the combination of a reactive pairing and the fire and challenges, with the deeper willingness to build trust and understand in an unspoken way why that is necessary - is invaluable.