Fuck, i don't care.
I was like, people dislike INTJs? And then I was trying to remember if there are any people who dislike me. And then I had to remember that, yeah, there have been. Which was a bit of a surprise. Remembering it was the surprise. Being disliked, well, jeez, when someone dislikes me, I'm like, well, okay, that's that finished with then. And it's off to find another way to make happen what I wanted to make happen.
See, the only time dislike is an issue is when I have to keep working with that person. And I'll put a fair amount of effort into not having to be near or help or work with people who actively don't like me. Passive dislike isn't that big a deal, but people actively working to stop whatever is supposed to work, them I don't need to be near. And if they're actively fucking with the project, then the project is over, and I'll find another way to do it myself.
And then I forget about it. I could say i don't care, but mostly it's I don't think about it any more. Because problems aren't unsolvable. If there's a problem, it can be fixed. (Of course, in real life, this is not true, but who cares? It's my approach and I assume it by nature.)
In recent times, like in the last twenty years, I remember being upset once when someone didn't like me. It was some kind of turf thing. He was an ES of some kind, I think, and when he took a dislike to me, he really took a dislike to me, and I had to live in the same building.
ooo, wait--maybe there're more bones in the closet. See, INTPs seem to worry me too. they're competent thinkers to be respected, but when you're outside the circle, you're outside, man.. and there's something I do that always sees me be on the outside. My supervisor in university was INTP. I don't think he ever liked me.
I don't expect he ever will, really. Not in a way I recognise. Sad, I guess. But that's just another thing that won't work. Which isn't a boundary or a limit. Because everything has a solution. Which isn't true, but so what? It's my approach and I assume it by nature.
What? Dislike is a live issue? What are you people, feelers?