About being a 4w5:
I'm a 4w5 sp/so. I am quite in tune with my own inner world of ideas and fantasy. It's like seeing the world through an aesthetic lens... instinctively I get a vibe off of a place, and while this may make me seem a bit vulnerable, I am quite in tune with my emotions... I feel them deeply, and often times I feel like they are me. It's like my interests, emotions, and wishes/hopes/dreams make me who I am. I am an incurable romantic... I yearn for not only a connection with a significant other, but also for poetic justice, for people to understand me and appreciate me for who I am. At the same time, I am very cerebral and love learning. I value gathering knowledge on topics that interest me, and will feel comfortable getting involved with something I feel competent in, or have knowledge of. Whenever I am learning something, I experience not only a brain connection to theories and concepts, but I often feel a deep seated emotional connection to the information... coming up with my own personal relationships between the concept being learned and the cathartic experience I have with learning something new. I ponder a lot of ideas, and those ideas swim around in my head. In a sense I think of myself as a philosopher, artist, scientist, and I find ideas and art inspiring. It's like living life being aware of the beauty of the world around you... even the most mundane objects. Sometimes I experience intense emotional responses from music and art. Quite a sensitive intellectual type.
Socially, I'm a bit more shy and reserved at first. I tend to keep to myself initially until I warm up to someone. As a 4w5 sp/so I'm very focused on what I want out of my life, and I don't like it if others stand in my way. Even though it may be considered socially acceptable to listen to Artist of the Week, or wear Style of the Week, I tend not to get involved with trends all that much. I wear what I want because it suits me (no pun intended), and I like it. I listen to the music I like, even if it isn't in style. I know what I want out of my future. I really do have to put in effort to seem graceful in social situations, cos in actuality, I feel quite awkward and transparent. I'm a little less intense than type 4 sx's though. I am aware that if I let things get to me too much, it isn't healthy for me, so I have to find someplace quiet to recharge, or take out my emotions constructively by creating artwork or write, play music. In order to cope with stress, I need some sort of creative outlet, and have time on my own, or I'll end up getting really irritable, or getting mentally scattered (with a strong 5 wing disintegrating into negative type 7 traits). I guess, in a way, I am very eclectic and subtlely eccentric, creative, whimsical, emotional, but also very intellectual, logical, analytical, philosophical, cerebral.
I hope this helps you to understand 4w5s a bit, shortnsweet.