AphroditeGoneAwry
failure to thrive
- Joined
- Feb 20, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- INfj
- Enneagram
- 451
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
I notice the quote uses the word "assess". To me, that's accurate. I identify the emotion, but I may not feel that emotion in the moment. There is a recognition of something I know or have known, and I can use that to extrapolate what the other person may be feeling. I say "extrapolate" because INFPs often report being able to accurately grasp that which they have not directly experienced.
I have helped people clarify how they feel by doing this also. I just offer suggestions and the person will verify that I hit the nail on the head. They sometimes get excited when this happens because they needed that clarification much more than any advice.
If I were to become emotional with them, then I'd lose that clarity though. When that happens (because it does sometimes), then I may egg on their emotion instead of helping them deal with it, which usually is not positive.
Thanks for the feedback. I sometimes wonder about this book.....but it sounds like it's spot on in this regard.