INTJs are a tough type for me to figure out. that's why i'm interested in their opinions, because i have no idea what goes on in their brain. it
appears that they don't know what they're feeling, but maybe it's me who doesn't know what i'm feeling... i certainly have no idea what they're feeling. i might think i do... and i might even go on to say that i've been right a few times... but maybe i'm just wrong in reading them that way.
i'm always on edge when interacting with them. i feel *responsible*. i don't know what it is. maybe i should just stay away from them. i don't want to pollute their lakes
and then again... they can annoy me and intrique me, but i don't wanna mess them up!
i find them incredibly intriguing, we come from the same place, Ni, which is really incredible because it makes my mental connection to them intense and powerful because we see things in the same light at our cores. We diverge from there though and those differences are good. For example my girl Meaghan, total INTJ, where I come up short in life, Te she is there to pick up my slack and help me accomplish my visions in a structured and realistic way in the real world. She is my anchor essentially to reality. On the other hand, she is almost entirely reality driven and sometimes she wont see ALL of the big picture, dont get me wrong she is massively intuitive, but she cant always draw the meaning from a situation, she can draw the logic from it, but maybe not the spiritual meanings, thats where I excel. So apart:
Billy: Aloof, head in the clouds, too future oriented, very gooey emotionally, looking to smooth out all the rough edges of life and bring peace, meaning and harmony to all, but completely lacking in bringing peace to myself and making sure my day to day needs are met properly. Couldnt balance a checkbook if I tried, I give too much of my money away.
Meaghan: Calculated precision, highly intelligent (she nailed a 1560 on her SATs, not that that makes her smart, she just understands systems and how things work logically) Its all backed by her intuition which gives her the answers, but she gets frustrated because she doesn't know how to deal with other people, when someone is crying she feels distressed because she is unequipped to deal with their problems unless they are anchored in reality, like money or some sort of physical needs problem. She tends to be a little self focused, and career focused because thats what she excels at, but she is a good person and she knows how, and why she feels the way she does. Even if she cannot express it well. She tends to be neurotic because of her Ni, but she handles it well.
Meaghan + Billy = seriously powerful combination. Her strengths + my strengths = calculated precision and intellectual consistency with an understanding of emotional states and a powerful vision for harmonious improvement of the relationship. That we are both Ni dominated individuals allows us a great depth of understanding and seeing multiple possibilities from a shitload of angles.
I need her Fi and Te to anchor me in place so I can utilize my Fe and Ti to keep us on track and to elevate us both in a healthy way. She takes care of the logical stuff, I nurture our relationship and challenge her to think more spiritually (read: not god or religion).
I find her very very easy to read because she is very up front with who and what she is, this in turn makes me want to disclose my innermost-ness to her which helps me to figure out what it is I am feeling internally. (Fi)
Basically we just trade Fi for Fe with each other.
She sees through my bullshit too, no one else does, so I dont feel a need to protect myself because she just "gets it" even if she doesnt know what to do with it lol...
Ah I dunno I am rambling now, LOVE INTJ's.