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I really, really dislike interrupting people.
However, people in groups always do that, and I'm always left waiting for a pause.
It doesn't matter if they're people I know or not.
Group interaction is like a black hole, with everyone just throwing words into the center. :[
Everyone's just looking for a chance to interrupt someone, and there's no real connection between the members. It's boring. Conversations cant develop that way... does anyone else notice how more people = shallower conversations? Even if everyone in the group is really interesting on their own!
Nonsense. What you seem to be describing there is brainstorming, and it comes in various guises and in fact, there's a lot of connection and stuff between people who do it. I was just doing it yesterday, big group of about 12 parents sitting in a café while the kids played, all throwing stuff out there. That's what extraverts do, they put their thoughts out there precisely to see if anyone else will relate to it or add to it in some way, so if you think you've got something on what they said before they finished the sentence completely, it's better to just blurt it out most of the time, than keep it to yourself. They're not saying stuff because they want to be heard, they're saying it because they want to hear what you have to say in return. That's how they connect.