Holiday stress? How do you usually express your anger? And do you feel rage because you let things go or pretend they don't bother you as much and then explode? What set you off this time?
I usually express my anger in a mature manner by discussing the issue and talking about feelings shmeelings
, I also try to be tactful so people don’t get riled up. Maybe I am too forgiving…and the issues are left unresolved sometimes which then later causes an explosion. What set me off this time you ask….GUESS!!!
- My ENTP man…he seems to be the only one in my life right now that really knows how to push my buttons! We were having a discussion so I came up with a resolution and presented it to him...the thing that triggered my anger was in this exchange:
Me: (In a positive way) “It’s a Win/Win for both of us!â€
Him: (In an asshole kind of way) “NO, it’s a Win for you!â€
That’s when I went berserko. I was so angry because my resolution really was a good one, it was all about compromise and teamwork, it totally made sense! I felt that he was being really irrational and selfish, it was like he didn’t understand or wasn’t listening to me. It really got me frustrated. He tried to make me seem like "the bad guy". HOW DARE HE!
Maybe it was my ego that got the best of me?
I guess I freak out on those rare occasions when I am fed up and feel like the only way to be heard or to be taken seriously is to explode. Plus it just feels so good to break something when I'm this angry (dumb I know)! I do remember as a pre-teen, seeing my mom freak out like this once. Maybe I learned this from her…
Hahaha! My ENFJ sister calls that 'flashing'. Recently, we were out shopping and she said she was about to 'flash'. So I asked her, "what does that mean?" I was afraid she was about to lose her top. That's when I found out what it really meant.
I'm curious, does your ENTP boyfriend have a calming effect on you? I ask that because my Mom tells me that I have that effect on my sister when she gets angry like that. I guess sometimes ENTP's might egg it on too and make it worse; however, my natural response seems to be to calm her down. She responds well to whatever it is I do.
Despite the brief flashes, which seem to be few and far between, y'all have so many great qualities that I aspire to have. I agree with what you said there about usually being calm, patient, and reasonable. I think that's accurate.
Anyway, I love y'all. I usually gain energy when I'm around ENFJ's. I know that doesn't answer your questions, but I did want to share my admiration.
You know what’s funny, he does egg me on, but then he also has the ability to calm me down, weird.
Thanks for the feed back and positive words ☺. Being an ENFJ can be a pain in the ass sometimes…I always say this lol!
Go to your nearest ENTP. That's my advice in a nutshell; maybe not the best.
When all else fails, gaze into the lovely snow globe...
NOTE: Please give me a heads up if you decide to throw it, so I have time to duck.
This would be the perfect thing to break!!