Help understanding an ENTP
I met an ENTP woman recently and had a few whirlwind dates and felt completely swept off my feet. I felt really strong chemistry - physical and intellectual and it seemed like it was mutual. She was very attentive and listened carefully and hours would go by without either of us noticing. I'm an ENXP - probably lean more towards F on most days so of course, I'm really excited about the prospects of what might be at this point.
Soon after, she had to go away for work and I figured we would keep in touch (certainly not all the time, freedom is important to me too) but about once a week or so until she came back. I heard once and it was a rather controlled email but nice. I respect differences in expression so didn't mind - figured as long as we were both ourselves, it would be okay. I responded in more NF fashion than I should have, showing a lot of emotion and asking a lot of questions about her. I didn't hear back. Eventually, I wrote asking simply if there was interest at her end too.
I heard back after a while and we met and talked. I'm just trying to understand what she said and believe it as genuine. I'm having a hard time with that. She essentially said that she felt strong emotions and was afraid of them and didn't feel like she could handle them. The surprising part was hearing that she didn't want to, out of fear. She said she needed to pause and understand what she was doing. So we're not seeing each other anymore.
I don't know if there's hope for us in the future (the hopeless romantic in me hopes there is because it felt so good when we spent time together, even our last conversation which was essentially for closure). I am just having a hard time understanding how someone can feel strong emotions and not want to explore them. Could this be genuine? Is this an ENTP trait or is it really a sign of greater emotional unavailability? Just trying to understand what happened. When I like someone, I just can't resist being with them. I assume most people feel the same way even though the desired pace might be different. This withdrawing altogether is strange and I can't decide if the connection was real or imagined and just at my end.
Any light shed on this would be helpful especially by the NTs in the group. I'm really glad I found this forum and it's been a learning experience reading through previous posts.
Thanks.