The other thing is that people (in my experience, xSFJ females) can get super clingy when they hear you make a wry comment or very non-standard observation about something... they treat you like a new toy and ask you questions you don't want to answer, or constantly will contrast your opinion with a "normal person's opinion" and will choose contrary to whatever position you hold because they see you as "not normal."
That's just a headache I hate dealing with.
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Or is this just me?
no, it's not just you. when around certain females
and males, and i say the things i say (don't have to tell you people), then that's what i hear from them. they like how i am and that's nice, but instead of it being a shared, mutual, give and take experience, then it can quickly become a burden because then it's like they want me around
all the time... entertaining them like a circus bear. it gets exhausting and feels like i'm being bled dry. leaving the parts of me that are deeper, introspective,
not 'socially' theoretical, etc. unused (therefore left in a concentrated form) and i have to get away from everyone like them in order to be the
total 'me' again.
i'm having fun and being appreciated, and that's a great feeling, but it's for only one or two aspects of me. the joking part and/or the analytical part (which they prefer to mostly be about them and/or something shallow or connected to them).
don't get me wrong, i like being liked for being me, sure, and i don't hate them for showing it, not at all, but it is what it is: a double-edged sword. leaving me feeling empty if i'm the only one to think/act/talk like me for too long. kind of lonely even in a crowd, you could say.