Strawberrylover
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I'd like to get some ideas on how to help this person.
The INTP in question is my father, who has been in the US for almost two decades now but who obviously hasn't adjusted very well.
My observations:
- He doesn't have any American friends.
- He's painfully shy and almost fearful of going out by himself or taking care of simple household errands.
- He has a bad attitude when it comes to learning about American culture and customs. When he's confronted with American culture through me, he usually rejects it and assumes an air of superiority.
- He spends every night on his computer reading Chinese internet forums. But he doesn't like China either and would never live there.
- His bedroom is like a cave. It stinks and he doesn't care about personal hygiene.
Basically, he's a nowhere man, neither here nor there. My father is highly intelligent, but the way he's going, I worry about his old age and how he'll be able to fend for himself if he's already so isolated in middle age.
On the Unhealthy INTP thread, SolitaryWalker's post jumped out at me as being particularly true of my father: "The [unhealthy] INTP does not fit in anywhere as he truly is good at nothing. All of his functions are defunct, including his dominant Introverted Thinking. ...
The unhealthy is characterized by a deep seated prejudice that most external world activities are not desirable, not by a mere prudent judgment that most things are not desirable."
NTs, in particular the INTPs on this board, how would you try to help him?
The INTP in question is my father, who has been in the US for almost two decades now but who obviously hasn't adjusted very well.
My observations:
- He doesn't have any American friends.
- He's painfully shy and almost fearful of going out by himself or taking care of simple household errands.
- He has a bad attitude when it comes to learning about American culture and customs. When he's confronted with American culture through me, he usually rejects it and assumes an air of superiority.
- He spends every night on his computer reading Chinese internet forums. But he doesn't like China either and would never live there.
- His bedroom is like a cave. It stinks and he doesn't care about personal hygiene.
Basically, he's a nowhere man, neither here nor there. My father is highly intelligent, but the way he's going, I worry about his old age and how he'll be able to fend for himself if he's already so isolated in middle age.
On the Unhealthy INTP thread, SolitaryWalker's post jumped out at me as being particularly true of my father: "The [unhealthy] INTP does not fit in anywhere as he truly is good at nothing. All of his functions are defunct, including his dominant Introverted Thinking. ...
The unhealthy is characterized by a deep seated prejudice that most external world activities are not desirable, not by a mere prudent judgment that most things are not desirable."
NTs, in particular the INTPs on this board, how would you try to help him?