I've seen 2s and 4s, especially 4w3s, be really attracted to 5w4s.
yeah, i think that's multiple things tho. sfj female meet ntp (or maybe even 5w6 istp) male. for non-intp e5 males, i wonder if the e2 connection still makes sense. from my end, as an infj 5w4, it seems crazy, i think. maybe an intj 5w4 would work with an e2 enfj. i think i'd have better luck with 1w2s.
the 4w3 comment is very interesting. it's a type i have a severely underdeveloped representation of in my mind. one male and one female. the female (isfp?) did try to initiate with me, tho, and if i had been less inept back then, it would have worked. hahaha, she was in a sorority and i was
militantly anti-sorority, but she still intrigued me very much.
If you want a 7, you will probably have to wait for them to get a bit older and start looking for balance. They may be attracted to you, since 7s need to develop their five side and become more reflective.
e6s and e9s are plentiful, so maybe use them as practice until then haha Who knows, you may realize they`re what you wanted all along once you start dating one. Even if you don`t usually have chemistry with a certain type, I think you can hit it off with any type, as long as you meet the right individual.
I bet 2s could deal with an aloof male figure in their life, since a lot of times, their eagerness to be helpful was caused by their father`s seeming ambivalence to them. They aim to please.
1 yeah, i can see this. it takes a lot of time, if i'm starting from the north pole and they're starting from the south pole, to intersect. the j/p thing tho, even more than the enneagram, seems significant, especially at a younger age. enfps usually have an easier time initially with istp 5w6s, i think, then inj 5s. the communication bandwidth is so immense, you've got to be ready to handle that, and be able to balance your voice with hearing the voice of the other person.
2 the only two types i've dated are e6 and e9. i hope i wasn't waiting around for what i really wanted all along. it didn't feel like it. what i "really wanted all along" was less realistic than a calvin and hobbes fantastical story/adventure. and it's so centrally important to shed some of those poorly framed desires and build a better story for yourself, better self-knowledge, and better self-mastery so that you don't need ever so much. i think these relationships helped with that (for both of us), and i feel they were equal in that sense. i'm very grateful for them.
3 i have moments of aloofness slip out, but i'm not an intp. ok, maybe i'm just as aloof, just as focused on my interests, etc, but my interests are people! and i care about personal values of others! and i want to explore them directly! and i like to harmonize my interactions with them! maybe this is still aloof, but is it at least friendlier? warmer? less cold and dismissive? more engaging?
I think it`s the 5w4`s uncompromising nature. They don`t worry about other people`s perceptions.
yeah, except from girls. the intp 5w4 sx/sps seem better at just playing the game (i hate that i'm thinking of ryan from the office). the sps don't seem to even care unless it's world of warcraft or a pagan festival and their magic mushrooms are kicking in so they have more niceness circulating within them. the one 5w4 sx/sp intj i know seems like he thinks he's a creepy sex god, but he's only 20. the 5w6 intps, istps, and intjs all seem to love to fuck with people but then have an amazing ability to not care about what those people think about them. i think it's partly the power of counterphobia.