cascadeco
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- sp/sx
Heh...I can stand only about 15 minutes of nature and then I get bored/depressed (since boredom>relaxation>sadness if you're not careful). I'm hoping for more suggestions from other people.
Well..and there you go!! If you find nature boring, then it's not going to be your route to becoming centered/peaceful. I know that for me too, boredom is the first step in a negative mental spiral towards depression and overanalysis/self-critique. However -> relaxation doesn't go to sadness for me. Does it for you, really? For me, being relaxed, without boredom, is one thing. The presence of boredom though will remove any potential for true relaxation.
What suggestions are you looking for? Things that would ground/center you? That will vary from one person to the next - I mean it could be just listening to music with no other distractions, it could be yoga or running or walking, it could be something artistic, or just sipping coffee/tea... I dunno.
One other thought on what nature does for me - the aspect of centering basically equates to my getting out of my head. In mbti terms, it's probably my jumping to Se. In any event, I open my eyes to the world around me, and the moment, and the moment is beautiful. My 'presence' no longer being in my brain and instead looking through my eyes around me is the best feeling ever. It's like a temporary reprieve.
Random Ness said:I find it ironic that INFJs are so cautious about not being unwanted, yet we have a hard time telling others that they are unwanted. I guess that's another self-abandoning aspect. When I was younger, I felt like all the pressure to make an interaction good was on me. Whatever I say had to be carefully worded, but whatever they said was totally permissible.
Uggh, I still do this.