People are not recognized enough for their worth. Yet, everyone hopes for at least some validation. but it seems like few are prepared to give it because status is treated like a zero-sum game. To have winners you must have losers. Whenever an element gives credit to another, that element may feel its status diminishing.
For these reasons, success may breed envy. Our success might remind someone else that they're not doing as good. The success of a best friend who always used to perform less well than us may leave a bitter taste in our mouth because we think we deserve better. Colleagues who were competing for the same position may suddenly give you the cold shoulder once you get it. You may feel extremely bitter about a writer who sells more books than you, just because you consider he can't take a risk in making a truly original story. Envy can make people do the most horrible things in a way to diminish the status of someone else. A famous ice skater trying to hurt physically her competitor to stop her from competing. A scientist who stops another from getting an article published by deliberately giving a bad review. A brother who consistently contradicts his sister because he's envious of her success and wants her to be perceived less well by his parents. Envy may push people to unfairly treat others depending solely on the belief that they know better who deserves what.
Are you envious? How do you deal with envy? How can you make sure your successes don't alienate others and make them envious? I'll let some people answer first before answering myself.
For these reasons, success may breed envy. Our success might remind someone else that they're not doing as good. The success of a best friend who always used to perform less well than us may leave a bitter taste in our mouth because we think we deserve better. Colleagues who were competing for the same position may suddenly give you the cold shoulder once you get it. You may feel extremely bitter about a writer who sells more books than you, just because you consider he can't take a risk in making a truly original story. Envy can make people do the most horrible things in a way to diminish the status of someone else. A famous ice skater trying to hurt physically her competitor to stop her from competing. A scientist who stops another from getting an article published by deliberately giving a bad review. A brother who consistently contradicts his sister because he's envious of her success and wants her to be perceived less well by his parents. Envy may push people to unfairly treat others depending solely on the belief that they know better who deserves what.
Are you envious? How do you deal with envy? How can you make sure your successes don't alienate others and make them envious? I'll let some people answer first before answering myself.