Some random stuff from a list of 7 v 9 stuff.
How to Get Along with Me as a NINE
• If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don't like expectations or pressure. – completely true.
• I like to listen and to be of service, but don't take advantage of this. – also true.
• Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit. – I don’t think I meander, but I’ve never really thought about it, I think I’m more direct and to the point than anything.
• Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It's OK to nudge me gently and nonjudgmentally. – I can make quick decisions when needed, like at work, but in my personal life I prefer to keep things open, my mother often nudges me, with a sledge hammer and it is the most irritating thing someone can do to me, when it comes to my life I don’t care how noble your intentions are leave me space to make up my mind when I want!
• Ask me questions to help me get clear. – Not sure I get this one, I need to bounce things off people to get clear.
• Tell me when you like how I look. I'm not averse to flattery. – Indeed, I’m also very unperceptive about it so it helps.
• Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings. – it depends on who you are, it can open me up to my feelings but sometimes those feelings are GETTHAFUKOFFMECREEP! sometimes. Other times I can feel loved.
• I like a good discussion but not a confrontation. – Yes, just change like to love.
• Let me know you like what I've done or said. – Again, I have no perception without feedback so this isn’t about ego building, it’s about awareness.
• Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life. – Please.
How to Get Along with Me as a SEVEN
• Give me companionship, affection, and freedom. – Freedom first, then companionship and affection.
• Engage with me in stimulating conversation and laughter. – Please!
• Appreciate my grand visions and listen to my stories. – I don’t really have stories, but don’t interrupt my grand visions!
• Don't try to change my style. Accept me the way I am. – I don’t know that I really care about this one so much, of course I want to be accepted for who I am but I am open to changing my style.
• Be responsible for yourself. I dislike clingy or needy people. – Oh gosh please.
• Don't tell me what to do. – Depends on who you are, but for the most part I appreciate being asked not told.
What I Like About Being a NINE
• Being nonjudgmental and accepting – Yes.
• Caring for and being concerned about others – Well I like that I’m not a heartless arse, so kinda.
• Being able to relax and have a good time – Yes.
• Knowing that most people enjoy my company; I'm easy to be around – I think so.
• My ability to see many different sides of an issue and to be a good mediator and facilitator – Yes, I dislike conflict and have always defaulted to the mediator role, I'm also pretty good at it as I pay attention to how the other person needs me to approach things.
• My heightened awareness of sensations, aesthetics, and the here and now – Dunno, I can have that, or I can be totally oblivious, I am actually pretty good with appreciating the here and now tho.
• Being able to go with the flow and feel one with the universe. – Going with the flow works, dunno about the universe thing, I have moments where that hits but for the most part I’m too busy going with the flow to notice.
What I Like About Being a SEVEN
• Being optimistic and not letting life's troubles get me down – Amen.
• Being spontaneous and free-spirited – I don’t see myself as spontaneous, I’m more impulsive, free-spirited? Meh.
• Being outspoken and outrageous. It's part of the fun. – It is part of the fun but I don’t think I am very often. I do it for the fun when I do, but then I can kind of want to sink into the shadows.
• Being generous and trying to make the world a better place – Generous yes, making the world a better place? Meh, only when it flows that way.
• Having the guts to take risks and to try exciting adventures – Hell YEAH!
• Having such varied interests and abilities – Sure.
What's Hard About Being a NINE
• Being judged and misunderstood for being placid and/or indecisive – Don’t think I am.
• Being critical of myself for lacking initiative and discipline – That part sucks.
• Being too sensitive to criticism; taking every raised eyebrow and twitch of the mouth personally – I’m not sensitive per say, never have been, but I do read into things like that then back away and raise my defenses if I feel they are not receptive to whatever I’m selling. I keep my guard pretty high, when I do let it down I can be destroyed easily, but I get back up again pretty quick without scars.
• Being confused about what I really want – Am I supposed to want something?
• Caring too much about what others will think of me – I don’t think I do.
• Not being listened to or taken seriously – Can’t say that bothers me too much.
What's hard about being a SEVEN
• Not having enough time to do all the things I want – Don’t find that a problem.
• Not completing things I start – Well yeah, that’s kinda annoying.
• Not being able to profit from the benefits that come from specializing; not making a commitment to a career – Well I fell into my job but I have been focused in the past on promotion so have a career of sorts.
• Having a tendency to be ungrounded; getting lost in plans or fantasies – I can get lost in plans but I don’t think I’m ungrounded, the best way to describe myself is to say that I can simultaneously have my feet on the ground and my head in the clouds.
• Feeling confined when I'm in a one-to-one relationship – Yeah.
NINEs as Children Often
• Feel ignored and that their wants, opinions, and feelings are unimportant – Youngest in a large family? Yeah maybe, dunno.
• Tune out a lot, especially when others argue – Yes, very true, I spent 90% of my time growing up in my room in the dark trying to block out the world and live in my fantasies. If I was on my own I would take over the house but as soon as someone would come home I would run to my room, close the door and pretend that I was doing nothing or not even there so they couldn’t interact with me (out of mind out of sight was my theory) as I didn’t want reality and didn’t want to get in trouble, even though I wasn’t doing anything wrong I was fearful that I would be yelled at anyway.
• Are "good" children: deny anger or keep it to themselves – Dunno, think my anger was always "quiet/seething" over explosive.
SEVENs as Children Often
• Are action oriented and adventuresome – I enjoyed being outdoors and was in some ways fearless.
• Drum up excitement – Not really.
• Prefer being with other children to being alone – Neither here nor there.
• Finesse their way around adults – Dunno, pretty sure friends parents always saw me as responsible and mature compared to other brats.
• Dream of the freedom they'll have when they grow up – Dunno, dreams were more fantasy over reality.