Ivy
Strongly Ambivalent
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I don't think you can reason with little kids either.
I used to be on a listserv with people whose parenting philosophy was "find a common preference, but never do anything to your child against his or her will." Some of the things people described doing to "find a common preference" struck me as the most ridiculous, baroque methods- at some point you just have to buckle the screaming toddler in, even if they don't want it, so you can get the 8 year old to school on time. Sorry, kid.
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IMO the decision to spank or not to spank depends greatly on the particular child. My daughter would have been heartbroken and honest to goodness, she WAS pretty reasonable. My son needs a bit sterner handling and wouldn't be too broken up about a spanking. Which, frankly, is one reason I don't spank him, either- I don't think it would work. Getting an inch from his face and looking right into his little eyes and not letting him look away while I put on my "mad mama" voice and face is the only thing I've found that gets through to him.
I used to be on a listserv with people whose parenting philosophy was "find a common preference, but never do anything to your child against his or her will." Some of the things people described doing to "find a common preference" struck me as the most ridiculous, baroque methods- at some point you just have to buckle the screaming toddler in, even if they don't want it, so you can get the 8 year old to school on time. Sorry, kid.
Taking Children Seriously - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
IMO the decision to spank or not to spank depends greatly on the particular child. My daughter would have been heartbroken and honest to goodness, she WAS pretty reasonable. My son needs a bit sterner handling and wouldn't be too broken up about a spanking. Which, frankly, is one reason I don't spank him, either- I don't think it would work. Getting an inch from his face and looking right into his little eyes and not letting him look away while I put on my "mad mama" voice and face is the only thing I've found that gets through to him.