P v J. Did he like to work (J)or play first(P), if there was a choice.
No, he was very lazy and could put off doing things for ages in order to go play, however he was very insistant that I do the things he was putting off for him before such and such time or else, because he demanded things be done on time to his liking, he just was too lazy to do it himself.
Things like cleaning he expected done within the first few hours of the day or he would go ballistic because he was a neat freak.....so it was I who had to work first, and he who got to play.
Did he turn up to things early, on time or late(P).
Depended, for me and the kids, family and friends always late, for appointments, early. (I am always early too, I hate lateness)
How did he react if you sprang a surprise event eg lets go for a trip this afternoon - great = P, cautious = J.
He wouldn't have been great about it, he didn't like things that threw his day off of his own personal plans. Which is the same here, I don't really like suprises, but then that could be the going out example you gave, I don't like suggestions to go out, neither of us liked the other organising things on the others behalf. I can be spontaneous, he can be spontaneous, but we equally didn't like spontanaity from others.
How was he on accepting that something was right/correct. Easy and/or good closure = J. Uncertain, open ended = P.
He was always right, didn't matter how much I proved he was wrong, he was always right, or he would twist his original words to make it sound like I was always wrong.
An example, I am half English, I don't look half English for a Moroccan girl, I look like a full on Berber. I have an English mother, she came to visit (my 4th contact with her), he took us both out for a meal, sat and spoke with us both. Within 2 days of stewing it over in his head he accused me of hiring a white woman to pretend to be my mother, that he knew that I was a full Moroccan who was too ashamed of her roots to admit it. (I have no idea where his intense paranoia came from)
I pulled out my birth certificate to prove his preposterous claim (you would laugh if I told you the rest of his acusations), he refused to look, he refused to accept it as evidence, he maintained that he was right no matter what.
Most of those questions should be readily identifiable by reference to your relationship.
I actually think the two you have least certain are usually the easiest. E/I and T/F are often the hardest to type...
-Geoff
I am convinced he was an introvert, he was always quiet, he didn't like having friends, and only had one very close one, and a few aquaintances, but even then he shunned all company. I feel 99% sure that he was an introvert, I was way more extraverted than he was when we met. (infact I am beggining to wonder if I am just Introverted because it was forced on me so much)
I believe he was a T type as he had no empathy for the suffering of others, he sometimes found it amusing, he had no compassion for anyone, he seemed to have no feelings whatsoever, he didn't even grieve well. He tortured animals as a child.
His hobbies involved engines, techonology, science, his best subject was maths. Doesn't that sound T to you?