The codependency thing spooked me because that is exactly what I go through with pretty much all of my personal relationships with everybody in my daily life. It definitely hurts me when somebody doesn't appreciate what I do for them and then I lose myself in thinking what I've done wrong that sometimes it really just isn't my fault and I need to let people be and let them pick their own choices. It definitely gets better the older I get, but I do sometimes think about it and then I feel a flash of pain inside my chest because I couldn't be somebody's savior, or something. I turn myself into a martyr and I even felt proud of such title at one point when I was younger, which is kind of pathetic now that I think about it.
Woman in the video is seriously me and I'm glad that there are others who are like me. Finding love for ourselves, I think, is a problem for many Fe-users. The Ni-Ti part in her video definitely describes me to a T, with the whole "I am going to envision that this and that is going to happen" and then when it turns out we are wrong, we completely fall apart, so to speak. This happens a lot when I make plans with somebody I care about and it just couldn't manifest the way I desire them to be, and I become incredibly upset. But then I try to look at it from their perspectives, though it has gotten me in situations where people take advantage of it and that just can't go on, you know? But yes, this woman sounds so much like me and the emotional processes that I go through in those situations. Even the way she talks and describe things is exactly the way I talk in real life. Great video and thank you, [MENTION=8936]highlander[/MENTION].