Thalassa
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- May 3, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- ISFP
- Enneagram
- 6w7
- Instinctual Variant
- sx
I actually didn't realize I was so obnoxious until I had an enfp explain to me, "you are completely ruining the tranquility of this chatroom and its abrasive and obnoxious." After that I was like, "... oh... very well I'll stop then."
Ok so I guess the gentleness they're describing is, the ability to control yourself and moderate when given the chance to use excessive force. I also wonder if this has sexual importance as well. The ability to hold myself back and control myself is sexier than showing no control whatsoever.
In otherwords, the second I start yelling and screaming is the second I've lost.
I've recently inverted my approach to teaching the boys. I used to micromanage and tell each kid directly that what they were doing was wrong and they need to sit down etc. I've now realized they are all constantly competing for my attention, so when I say "I like how guss is sitting" they all immediately go down and sit down next to guss.
But I don't think this is relevant to being an 8. I think E8 has more to do with, "I could scream at you right now but I choose not to."
I think the you are ruining the tranquility of this chatroom is an Fe ploy. I don't find that it works on me, even as an adult, unless I think peace is the main objective.
Damn autocorrect.