tell us if you learned anything!
And I'm like....ok? Those are opinions of other people. That's it. It's not a learning experience because people are rarely honest to your face. If they wanted to make an impact on me, they'd put it in writing.
Being the grand ol' Enneatype that I am, throughout my life I've taken such things more seriously than they're worth. The short-term learning experiences on those sorts of comments were either "Oh shit, I'd better keep this up" or "Oh shit, I'd better change this." But the
long-term learning experience is that everyone has their opinions/assessments; and many are inconsequential. The only ones to take
personally are those that are honest
and well-informed, and the only other ones to take
seriously are those from people who actually have an impact on your life. (Ideally, I guess none should be taken personally. But, hey, Enneatype. And I suppose some don't have to learn that lesson and simply have it ingrained in them. That's cool.)
As an example of one to not take personally, I've had outward stoicism mistaken as apathy ("You really
don't care, do you?"). It's honest but often not well-informed. Of course the expectation is that, if one cares, they'll show it in their expression. But my perspective is that
really caring about a situation means actually doing something about it. In my case, I often take on a calm role so that the thing can be defused/handled. How much do I
actually care if I can't learn to (or be bothered to) reign in my feelings? So those who
know me know
that about me; those on the outside really don't. They lack that bit of information. So.. they can think that I'm, say, an apathetic person all they want, but it's no skin off my back.
Hell, forum posts
are putting it in writing. And how little do those matter?
