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Would you/have you? Under what circumstances? What do you actually consider cheating?
Would you/have you? Under what circumstances? What do you actually consider cheating?
Nonsense.Never, ever. It's the most egregious breach of trust imaginable in a relationship, and if you don't have trust, you don't have a relationship. Cheating is basically putting a gun to your relationship's head and pulling the trigger.
I consider as cheating any specifically romantic or sexual activity that your partner would consider a breach of trust, including online-only. If you don't agree with your partner's definition of cheating, then that is a major issue in my opinion and it should be resolved before marriage or serious commitment.
Would you/have you? Under what circumstances? What do you actually consider cheating?
It is interesting that most of the replies to this thread have made the assumption that the question was in regards to relationships, which is no where evident in the OP.
No. Never.
Cheating says you are happy to risk a stable relationship with your SO for the sake of a quick fling. If you know your actions are going to deeply (and possibly permanently) damage the love you and your SO have, then to go ahead and cheat means you actually don't value the relationship that highly.
I think it's very easy for people to say they wouldn't, who've never been under any really severe temptation.
No, I haven't ever, but as I say, I never felt tempted.
But consider the case of the bisexual person - contrary to popular belief, most bisexuals don't just feel like they could go either way any time. We also don't get 'the best of both worlds' or a bigger 'choice' of people to date. In fact, we get a smaller dating pool than anyone else, since gay people are often suspicious of us and straight people tend to find anything like that kinda 'icky', and say they wouldn't date a bisexual.
In reality, I can go for long periods of time when I'm only interested in the same sex, and even start to wonder if I'm gay - then suddenly without warning, and it's beyond my own control, I just go right off men and am only interested in women, and can't even imagine myself going with a man and wonder how I ever did. Then it swings round again.
For a bisexual person to commit to one relationship with one person, they're basically being asked to deny an entire part of themselves for the rest of their lives. If I were with a woman, there would be periods where I'd find the concept of my own relationship repulsive, and in order for it to stay alive the woman would have to understand that until my orientation 'swings' back, and neither she nor I have any control over when/whether it does, my heart really wouldn't be in any physical intimacy with her.
In a relationship I was in once, it was extremely difficult for me to keep slogging at a relationship with someone of a gender I wasn't even sure if I'd ever be attracted to it again. It's not that there was any one particular person that I felt tempted by or attracted to - it was more a case of just feeling like I wanted a different relationship, I had needs that were not being met, and couldn't possibly be met, in the relationship I was currently in. I didn't cheat, as I say, but I wouldn't be able to swear that if, at that time, someone of the gender I was oriented towards came along who I felt a strong attraction to, I wouldn't have wavered or even cave.