cacaia
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- May 27, 2018
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Hello, all. I have just resurfaced from a very upsetting call with my ESTJ mother. Upsetting to me. She'll probably forget all about it by next week.
A little background...My grandpa is very very old, and all siblings ( two aunts and one uncle as well as my mom) are taking turns caring for him on a weekly basis. Lately, I've noticed my mom is harsh and kind of telling me how to run my household and how to raise my kids. I know her very well. This has nothing to do with me, it has to do with her stress over my grandpa.
Today over the phone, at the mere mention of one of my ENFP aunts whom my mom does not get along with, my mom lost her shit. I told her she needs to patch it up with my aunt. What followed was all this garbage coming from her about me not telling her what to do and that I am forcing my opinions on her, that she decides what she will do, and, my own personal favorite ( and the icing on the cake that left me crying like a fucking baby), "don't give me this American ' I'm here for you' crap, pseudo psychology bullshit!"
I hung up on her. Then, in tears, I wrote her a message that said " I love you and I AM here for you. No bullshit, but the truth."
But, in fact, she keeps breaking my heart. I have to be very superficial with her and not tell her anything important about my life, because she'll turn it into a psychological chess game. And, she's my mom. I am stuck with her in this lifetime. Surely we have a lot to patch up.
Does this seem familiar?
A little background...My grandpa is very very old, and all siblings ( two aunts and one uncle as well as my mom) are taking turns caring for him on a weekly basis. Lately, I've noticed my mom is harsh and kind of telling me how to run my household and how to raise my kids. I know her very well. This has nothing to do with me, it has to do with her stress over my grandpa.
Today over the phone, at the mere mention of one of my ENFP aunts whom my mom does not get along with, my mom lost her shit. I told her she needs to patch it up with my aunt. What followed was all this garbage coming from her about me not telling her what to do and that I am forcing my opinions on her, that she decides what she will do, and, my own personal favorite ( and the icing on the cake that left me crying like a fucking baby), "don't give me this American ' I'm here for you' crap, pseudo psychology bullshit!"
I hung up on her. Then, in tears, I wrote her a message that said " I love you and I AM here for you. No bullshit, but the truth."
But, in fact, she keeps breaking my heart. I have to be very superficial with her and not tell her anything important about my life, because she'll turn it into a psychological chess game. And, she's my mom. I am stuck with her in this lifetime. Surely we have a lot to patch up.
Does this seem familiar?