Athenian200
Protocol Droid
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- Jul 1, 2007
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I've noticed that if I've mentally established a person as no longer being a friend, or haven't established any sort of friendship towards them, and they express negative emotions towards me, it doesn't affect me. Well, it can affect me if I'm concerned that they're in a position to make me look bad and affect my relationships with people I do care about, but I don't feel any concern for them.
Also, if I am friends with a person, and I realize that a situation is going badly, sometimes I just halt my emotions in mid-process, and try to determine how much I value the person in general, and whether anything they've done has made me stop valuing them. If I decide that I still value them, I decide to not be affected by all the negative statements already made towards me, ignore any further slights on their part for the rest of the situation, and simply say whatever I have to say to mitigate their negative response to whatever happened. If nothing seems to work, sometimes I just avoid them for a while, and hope they can deal with it better later on. If I decide that I don't value them anymore, then I just start ignoring them completely, responding in a very minimal and neutral/formal way if I'm forced to interact with them.
Is this unusual? It seems to be from what I've gathered...
Also, if I am friends with a person, and I realize that a situation is going badly, sometimes I just halt my emotions in mid-process, and try to determine how much I value the person in general, and whether anything they've done has made me stop valuing them. If I decide that I still value them, I decide to not be affected by all the negative statements already made towards me, ignore any further slights on their part for the rest of the situation, and simply say whatever I have to say to mitigate their negative response to whatever happened. If nothing seems to work, sometimes I just avoid them for a while, and hope they can deal with it better later on. If I decide that I don't value them anymore, then I just start ignoring them completely, responding in a very minimal and neutral/formal way if I'm forced to interact with them.
Is this unusual? It seems to be from what I've gathered...