Usehername
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Ask her out in a vague manner? I'll need an example...
Just don't say, "hey do you want to go for coffee sometime?" if you've already been hanging out in friend context. How is she supposed to know if this is a friend-coffee or a date-coffee? If she's confused, she will either hold her cards close and not give you much at all, or she'll default into presuming it's a friend-date and you'll read "wrong" signals that could've been prevented if you just said to her something that made it 100% clear that you're interested in seeing the romantic relationship potential. One option is the aforementioned "you have qualities that I look for in a GF, want to go out for coffee to get to know each other" or the other is simply telling her you want to take her out for a date, and then once you say that, you ask her out to coffee. I'm sure there's other variations, but give her 100% clear context that it's "exploring romantic potential" rather than leaving the potential for her to interpret it as a friend date.
This method is respectful and angst/heartache-saving, not to mention efficient to get that behind you if it wasn't going to work out anyway. Or it means you're that much closer to a relationship.