Hi, could you guys take a look at this, please. My first language isn't english so my expression might be a bit un-english, but I hope the meaning is clear.
1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?
When I took a personality test like 5 years ago, I typed as INFJ. But now I type either as INFP or as ISFP. I’m pretty sure I’m an Introvert, probably a Feeler, but the rest I’m not sure about. I read a lot about the cognitive functions and I studied psychology ( where I learned about questionaries, I know what they’re getting at most of the time), so I might bend my answers on tests to get the desired type.
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2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
Personally or professionally? I want to belong and to be understood/accepted. I don’t want to be judged, I want to be free to express myself. I mean I don’t want to worry about what others might think if I dance on the street because I’m in a good mood. Or not buy the shirt I like because it’s not practical (I keep hearing my Mom telling me not to in my head). I don’t want to over think every situation both in advance and posteriorly. I want my mind (Mom) to shut up. Is this Social Anxiety or Fe? Ohhhh, and I could use some self confidence.
3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
I worked abroad for about a year. It was the first time I was financially independent and emotionally free from all the toxic garbage mind games I have going on at home. It was very liberating to be actively doing something, not to be sitting at home letting life pass me by. Also I was communicating in a different language, so I could ‘hide my social disabilities’ behind my lack of language skills.
4) What makes you feel inferior?
Being talked down to. Not being heared. These make me really insecure.
5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
I mull over things, go back, try to look at pros and cons, but in the end decide impulsively. If I’m being honest trying to decide based on logic/practicality is a courtesy. Most of the time I decide at first sight based on how I feel about it (if I like it or not, scares me or not), and I’m just using logic to justify myself.
6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
I like to figure out practical problems, how to fix/build things, if a part is missing, what can I use to replace it. Looking around to see what can I utilize in my surroundings for that purpose. Lack of resources put me in the brainstorming/creative zone. I get very enthusiastic, vocal (to everyone’s surprise) and sometimes even get carried away. Especially when I make something, I tweak it up and up and up, until I go overboard with it. Usually the end product looks a lot less glamorous than the version in my mind.
7) Describe a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
Fun means laughing with my friends. It’s the best when we’re being silly from being overly tired. I like that inside jokes, bonding kinda group-y feeling. Just being carefree like children. Like when I worked abroad.
8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you?
When learning a language I like the ‘Let’s talk’ approach over the ‘Let’s practice the grammar’ approach even though I’m shy and slow to open up and share my thoughts.
I’m awful at learning dates, numbers and technical terms. I understand what I’ve read but can’t put it into words, it’s like an impression/feeling or a ghost you can’t touch. I like examples, they make it easier to remember stuff.
9) How organized do you think of yourself as?
Well, I can go without vacuuming, dishwashing for a long time…. And when I don’t have any clean spoons left I feel motivated enough to do the dishes. Or when I should be studying, I feel the need to tidy up. Otherwise I’m kinda laid back about it.
10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
I don’t really understand what ideas mean in this context. In the INFP description it’s all about values and ideas, and I just can’t grasp them. Is it philosophical? Is it fantasy/conspiracy theory? Is it a practical solution? How realistic is it?
If it’s a new theory, I like to understand what it is, how it works, is it good for anything?
11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
I was taught to be polite and think of others needs, but being a ‘good girl’ tires me out sometimes. Growing up I didn’t have much self awareness, I didn’t have opinions, I didn’t have preferences. I’m learning how to stand up for myself now (and I’m well passed my teenage years). I still struggle with keeping my boundaries in place. But nowdays giving my needs up for others’ only makes me feel good if it’s appreciated. It makes me feel stubborn.
12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
If I have to speak in front of more than 3 people I get flustered and can’t think straight and want to run away. I open up more easily in one on one. While listening to someone I get so attuned to them, that I don’t interpret what they’re saying, so talking actually helps me organize my thoughts into a response.
13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
I leap then figure things out on my way down. I trust actions more than words, actions are harder to fake, especially non-verbal communication.
14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
I can’t ignore that it’s freezing outside right now, so I’d stay were I am cozy on my couch with my hot chocolate. Maybe in the summer.
15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
I fall apart, become totally indecisive and childish. I want people to comfort me but snap at them when they try to. I want to be left alone. I have this nervous energy, I snack, clean or do anything but what I should be doing.
16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
It irritates me when people are indecisive about unimportant things. Know-it-alls, people who think they’re better irk me. I look down on fake people. Too kind, attentive and mothering people make me feel uncomfortable.
17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
I like the creative/crazy brainstormings, where we’re bouncing off of each other’s crazy ideas. I like to talk to people who are receptive to the beautiful things in the everyday life.
18) What kind of things do you pay the least attention to in your life?
I don’t know because I don’t pay attention to them. Maybe it’s the impression I have on others. I try so hard to be invisible, I have no clue how others see me or if they notice/remember me at all.
19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
See above. I’ve never asked them. I might seem childish sometimes, but I only let myself be that way with my closest friends/family. I might come across as a playful puppy to keep the mood light, at least sometimes I feel like I try to hard to be positive. I’m more judgmental about people that I let on. I tell a lot of white lies to make them feel better and to make them feel understood.
20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
Going for a walk in nature in the sunshine, biking, swimming, dancing. But most of the time I end up reading a book on my balcony in my hammock or watching tv shows. I need to find new friends to do outdoors-y things with, or at least get a dog. I feel like doing something creative like painting, writing, singing but I don’t have the talent. So I stick to arts and crafts.
1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?
When I took a personality test like 5 years ago, I typed as INFJ. But now I type either as INFP or as ISFP. I’m pretty sure I’m an Introvert, probably a Feeler, but the rest I’m not sure about. I read a lot about the cognitive functions and I studied psychology ( where I learned about questionaries, I know what they’re getting at most of the time), so I might bend my answers on tests to get the desired type.
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2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
Personally or professionally? I want to belong and to be understood/accepted. I don’t want to be judged, I want to be free to express myself. I mean I don’t want to worry about what others might think if I dance on the street because I’m in a good mood. Or not buy the shirt I like because it’s not practical (I keep hearing my Mom telling me not to in my head). I don’t want to over think every situation both in advance and posteriorly. I want my mind (Mom) to shut up. Is this Social Anxiety or Fe? Ohhhh, and I could use some self confidence.
3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
I worked abroad for about a year. It was the first time I was financially independent and emotionally free from all the toxic garbage mind games I have going on at home. It was very liberating to be actively doing something, not to be sitting at home letting life pass me by. Also I was communicating in a different language, so I could ‘hide my social disabilities’ behind my lack of language skills.
4) What makes you feel inferior?
Being talked down to. Not being heared. These make me really insecure.
5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
I mull over things, go back, try to look at pros and cons, but in the end decide impulsively. If I’m being honest trying to decide based on logic/practicality is a courtesy. Most of the time I decide at first sight based on how I feel about it (if I like it or not, scares me or not), and I’m just using logic to justify myself.
6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
I like to figure out practical problems, how to fix/build things, if a part is missing, what can I use to replace it. Looking around to see what can I utilize in my surroundings for that purpose. Lack of resources put me in the brainstorming/creative zone. I get very enthusiastic, vocal (to everyone’s surprise) and sometimes even get carried away. Especially when I make something, I tweak it up and up and up, until I go overboard with it. Usually the end product looks a lot less glamorous than the version in my mind.
7) Describe a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
Fun means laughing with my friends. It’s the best when we’re being silly from being overly tired. I like that inside jokes, bonding kinda group-y feeling. Just being carefree like children. Like when I worked abroad.
8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you?
When learning a language I like the ‘Let’s talk’ approach over the ‘Let’s practice the grammar’ approach even though I’m shy and slow to open up and share my thoughts.
I’m awful at learning dates, numbers and technical terms. I understand what I’ve read but can’t put it into words, it’s like an impression/feeling or a ghost you can’t touch. I like examples, they make it easier to remember stuff.
9) How organized do you think of yourself as?
Well, I can go without vacuuming, dishwashing for a long time…. And when I don’t have any clean spoons left I feel motivated enough to do the dishes. Or when I should be studying, I feel the need to tidy up. Otherwise I’m kinda laid back about it.
10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
I don’t really understand what ideas mean in this context. In the INFP description it’s all about values and ideas, and I just can’t grasp them. Is it philosophical? Is it fantasy/conspiracy theory? Is it a practical solution? How realistic is it?
If it’s a new theory, I like to understand what it is, how it works, is it good for anything?
11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
I was taught to be polite and think of others needs, but being a ‘good girl’ tires me out sometimes. Growing up I didn’t have much self awareness, I didn’t have opinions, I didn’t have preferences. I’m learning how to stand up for myself now (and I’m well passed my teenage years). I still struggle with keeping my boundaries in place. But nowdays giving my needs up for others’ only makes me feel good if it’s appreciated. It makes me feel stubborn.
12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
If I have to speak in front of more than 3 people I get flustered and can’t think straight and want to run away. I open up more easily in one on one. While listening to someone I get so attuned to them, that I don’t interpret what they’re saying, so talking actually helps me organize my thoughts into a response.
13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
I leap then figure things out on my way down. I trust actions more than words, actions are harder to fake, especially non-verbal communication.
14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
I can’t ignore that it’s freezing outside right now, so I’d stay were I am cozy on my couch with my hot chocolate. Maybe in the summer.
15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
I fall apart, become totally indecisive and childish. I want people to comfort me but snap at them when they try to. I want to be left alone. I have this nervous energy, I snack, clean or do anything but what I should be doing.
16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
It irritates me when people are indecisive about unimportant things. Know-it-alls, people who think they’re better irk me. I look down on fake people. Too kind, attentive and mothering people make me feel uncomfortable.
17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
I like the creative/crazy brainstormings, where we’re bouncing off of each other’s crazy ideas. I like to talk to people who are receptive to the beautiful things in the everyday life.
18) What kind of things do you pay the least attention to in your life?
I don’t know because I don’t pay attention to them. Maybe it’s the impression I have on others. I try so hard to be invisible, I have no clue how others see me or if they notice/remember me at all.
19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
See above. I’ve never asked them. I might seem childish sometimes, but I only let myself be that way with my closest friends/family. I might come across as a playful puppy to keep the mood light, at least sometimes I feel like I try to hard to be positive. I’m more judgmental about people that I let on. I tell a lot of white lies to make them feel better and to make them feel understood.
20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
Going for a walk in nature in the sunshine, biking, swimming, dancing. But most of the time I end up reading a book on my balcony in my hammock or watching tv shows. I need to find new friends to do outdoors-y things with, or at least get a dog. I feel like doing something creative like painting, writing, singing but I don’t have the talent. So I stick to arts and crafts.