IZthe411
Carerra Lu
- Joined
- Jul 19, 2009
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- INTJ
Good point. I wrote it that way because most people don't like feeling coerced, but different people (and perhaps types) may have different ideas as to what qualifies as "coercion" in the first place.
When someone seems to lay down comments or questions in a way that hint toward an "expected" path, a path they "expect" me to take and are waiting with their bait in the water, I take offense to that. I don't like being "led" to the place you want me to be; I'll make my own choices. Something like that... Still not very specific, but that involves interpretation that varies from person to person.
Good example. Like my ex-girlfriend used to give me the logic that 'this is what couples do'- as if I'm supposed to do some activity simply because others do it.
I respect logic, and I respect a chance to mull it over. I'll admit, it's my initial impulse to shoot down any attempt to change my view, but if I have time to realize it's not the end of the world to consider other's views, it fares better. And when I mean time, I don't mean hours. It can be as little as 1 minute.
This is not to say that being steadfast and rooted in an opinion isn't helpful. I spend a lot of time defending our approach to life- when it has it's place in life. Just like an ENFP's impulse to be open and consider other ideas- not that it's wrong, but certainly can be out of place when there is a need to hold your ground, and it needs to be checked.