I feel like it contained his true feelings, because he didn't try and take it back or explain himself. He just threw it out there and left it.
I am trying my hardest to not be 'that girl'. I want him to have fun, but I want him to look forward to coming back home and seeing me. I can't force it.
5 messages is a TON? Really? lol, I must be a HEAVY texter than, because the conversations were just so... 'S' lol "Hi, Hope you have a good day!" "Thanks, you too!" "Good night!" "Sweet dreams!" I mean, no substance....
and like I said before, it's not like he's out white water rafting, and going out drinking, he's in a small town, sitting at home playing games with his family...
I do know that I can ENFP him to death, which is why I love coming here and sorting things out!
Wow... I don't see why everyone is making your OP out to be something so needy. 5 texts a day is not
a 'TON' if
you say it isn't. "Enough" is relative to what you two
both think. 3 days away without contact is also relative, that kind of boundary is something you & he create. There isn't some guideline that says you're clingy if you want him to call you everyday, its dependent on the relationship, the needs of
both people involved. There isn't any friggen 'norm.' But you don't seem to be really looking for relationship advice in general anyway, right? Aren't you asking to better understand what's going on in his mind, or why it bothers you?
If you asked him to call you everyday, he agreed, and he didn't, I agree that was an error on his part. I think it would have been a good idea to call him or tell him after day 3 that you still expected him to keep his word, but I think in your OP you were implying you weren't really bothered
until he said the insensitive 'i don't miss you' thing. I think the way he worded it might have been a way of making it easier on you in his mind, because he didn't say directly that he didn't miss you, he implied it by saying you might feel the same way on a vacation. That's speculation, but its something to consider. Either way, I think the whole 'not being treated like a girlfriend' is just something that's always going to slightly bother NFs. It makes sense. Its probably worse because, as an ENFP, when his words don't match his intent or true motivation, that's just about your biggest peeve. You seem to be fine with him being independent, you just want to know why he doesn things / what his motivations are. I imagine things like this just jumble you up.
After 5 years, its likely he has missed you but maybe he's oblivious to your need to hear it, or just does't think to say it. (Like my ISTP). I would agree with most of the responses that say that the one particular line that disheveled you is being over analyzed because you don't have enough ends tied up to make perfect sense of it. He kind of sounds like my brother, who's INTJ. He won't say something like that to me unless I outright tell him I need it (which, yes, makes it not feel as great & makes me think he doesn't feel as much as I do), but the action / choice to call or tell you anything has got to be analyzed as much as what he says or doesn't say, to be fair. If you did that you might find he's more consistent in his feelings for you & find some peace with it.