hermeticdancer
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Is it just me or does anyone have trouble understanding ISFJs?
I think I am dating one. It seems like he can talk in circles about things, finish my sentences and attempt to empathize, but the things he says are very cliche and unoriginal. Also he tends to put words in my mouth, which I don't like. I've never experienced this before. He is fond of idioms, catch phrases, and pop culture. Sometimes, I worry if he has the ability to come up with an original thought in his own head...he is in the navy also, tested ISTJ, at first.
He talks a lot for an introvert... and an ISTJ, but he's very caring, and affectionate. I already caught him in a lie though he said he was going out with buddies for a week for a ski trip, then he dissapeared and wouldn't answer his phone. I called and he said he was with his ex. (that he broke up with 3 years ago...?) this is only after a month of knowing him. We also, met online...
I think he is hiding something from me... He always wants to please me too, its always about pleasing me physically. He wants to hear how much I like him, over and over, like reassurance...
Like he doesn't believe me...
Or he needs it to continue...
The lying is really bad... I also had another ISXJ lie and cheat right off the bat, so I am not suprized... I feel pressure to be pleased by his actions... he wants to make me happy that is one thing...where as ISTJ seems more self focused... hell he could he a P for all I know!
He tested for ISTJ, INTJ, then ISFJ twice... I really don't know what to think other than he annoys me. but makes me crazy at the same time!
I think I am dating one. It seems like he can talk in circles about things, finish my sentences and attempt to empathize, but the things he says are very cliche and unoriginal. Also he tends to put words in my mouth, which I don't like. I've never experienced this before. He is fond of idioms, catch phrases, and pop culture. Sometimes, I worry if he has the ability to come up with an original thought in his own head...he is in the navy also, tested ISTJ, at first.
He talks a lot for an introvert... and an ISTJ, but he's very caring, and affectionate. I already caught him in a lie though he said he was going out with buddies for a week for a ski trip, then he dissapeared and wouldn't answer his phone. I called and he said he was with his ex. (that he broke up with 3 years ago...?) this is only after a month of knowing him. We also, met online...
I think he is hiding something from me... He always wants to please me too, its always about pleasing me physically. He wants to hear how much I like him, over and over, like reassurance...
Like he doesn't believe me...
Or he needs it to continue...
The lying is really bad... I also had another ISXJ lie and cheat right off the bat, so I am not suprized... I feel pressure to be pleased by his actions... he wants to make me happy that is one thing...where as ISTJ seems more self focused... hell he could he a P for all I know!
He tested for ISTJ, INTJ, then ISFJ twice... I really don't know what to think other than he annoys me. but makes me crazy at the same time!