i have much more trouble with estps.
esfp-infj has been well-described so far. i identify with the surface level enjoyment at times, hell- i like Se when it is still connected to feeling, sense of self, social skill, etc. it has a lot to offer and i often have strong initial attraction to esfp girls. when there is no physical Se (sexual and aesthetic) attraction, there is very little energy or impetus to get to know each other. with like co-workers, they seem like at their best they are very good, giving, caring people. at others they can be very dismal and woe is me in an extroverted way and get exhausting. you want to use N to refocus, to help show a different picture to them, but it rarely works and they are distrustful of you thinking TOO differently, too much, etc. 7 types are more fun initially but 9 types are better pals, tho i don't really have a lot of use for that without some serious N or committed to an activity where acquaintance is viable and enjoyable.
also, i can totally see the messiness. yet i'm very messy in many ways as well, while still being somewhat j. i deal with it easily, i think, unless i'm just in a mood and being pissy (which is my own damn fault). if roommates, i can imagine the kitchen being an annoying area of conflict, ie jesus h, ever fucking hear of mise en place????????