laudanum225
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around my infj friends there is this one girl, quite smart, strong moral backbone etc (usually), artsy (a painter and graphic designer), basically fits the description of the infj in every way possible...
i am asking this because apart from her, all my other infj friends, male or female, including me, have a tendency to be flirty but very choosy on whom to date, etc
so, she gets to meet a lot of guys, goes to a lot of parties etc, and will date a few guys here and there, but seems to never stick to one. she got out of a bad relationship about a year back, and is now even looking into casual sex with some of the guys she meets.
i dont understand it. i mean, would that be explainable with shadow functions and her being hurt from that said past relationship?
she used to be very romantic and have a strong adversion to "flighty" behavior like that (she calls it like this herself) but now she doesn't think of it "as a bad thing".
i am not saying that i dont approve or anything, it is just that i havent ever seen such patterns in any other infj friends in my surrounding.
she went through the normal post-break up anger and grief phases (we did talk a lot and she also talked with a few other close friends) and seems to be well recovered, even sometimes talks about a new relationship, but in the meantime cant hold on to any guy. the other day when i asked what she finds about the guys that she dates and eventually sleeps with if she knows that it is not really going anywhere anyways, she didnt really have any explanation herself. but she did say that she readily moves on.
is she in trouble? can i help? should i just let it go and not worry about it? i mean, she is my friend and i just worry that she may be doing something she later regrets.
i am asking this because apart from her, all my other infj friends, male or female, including me, have a tendency to be flirty but very choosy on whom to date, etc
so, she gets to meet a lot of guys, goes to a lot of parties etc, and will date a few guys here and there, but seems to never stick to one. she got out of a bad relationship about a year back, and is now even looking into casual sex with some of the guys she meets.
i dont understand it. i mean, would that be explainable with shadow functions and her being hurt from that said past relationship?
she used to be very romantic and have a strong adversion to "flighty" behavior like that (she calls it like this herself) but now she doesn't think of it "as a bad thing".
i am not saying that i dont approve or anything, it is just that i havent ever seen such patterns in any other infj friends in my surrounding.
she went through the normal post-break up anger and grief phases (we did talk a lot and she also talked with a few other close friends) and seems to be well recovered, even sometimes talks about a new relationship, but in the meantime cant hold on to any guy. the other day when i asked what she finds about the guys that she dates and eventually sleeps with if she knows that it is not really going anywhere anyways, she didnt really have any explanation herself. but she did say that she readily moves on.
is she in trouble? can i help? should i just let it go and not worry about it? i mean, she is my friend and i just worry that she may be doing something she later regrets.