Such Irony
Honor Thy Inferior
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- Jul 23, 2010
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- MBTI Type
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- Enneagram
- 5w6
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/so
I have so.sp in my signature but I'm no longer so sure that's my stacking.
There are things I do relate to about being a social variant, as I've highlighted in this thread: Introverted Social Variant Types
Just some additional things I want to add since I've made that post. Maybe it's because I'm a 5 and an introvert, but there are things typically attributed to so/sp that I just don't relate to:
I don't have a natural awareness of social conventions. I've had to learn as I've gotten older to pay attention to them more. In my childhood and teenage years, I made a whole lot of social faux pas.
I question most social conventions in our society rather than just blindly follow them.
so/sp is often considered a social climber. I don't relate to that. I don't care about being in the top social class or climbing the corporate ladder although I do want to be perceived as successful.
I've wondered if maybe another stacking is a better fit. I've seen myself as SX last largely because I've never felt that I needed to be in a relationship to feel fulfilled. I'm also afraid of too much intensity in relationships.- especially when it's too soon and I'm not ready to go there yet. Yet I really would like to find someone I could really be intimate with. I long to find someone I can truly have a deep conversation with and share my secrets and all my odd quirks. I guess what I fear is that the other person will be repelled by that so I hold parts of myself back so that I won't be rejected by the other person. So maybe I'm not SX last.
Regarding SP, I've always been a play it safe sort of person. I'm very careful about money. I don't take physical risks if I can help it. I like living a healthy lifestyle- eating right, exercising, no smoking or drinking. Yet, I'm not overly anal about it either. Sometimes I do let things slide, especially when I get busy or preoccupied with other things. I am highly sensitive to physical discomfort and things like temperature.
So vote in my poll and let me know what stacking you think fits best.
There are things I do relate to about being a social variant, as I've highlighted in this thread: Introverted Social Variant Types
I take more notice of things like social standing and hierarchy. I don't necessarily agree with all of it and I do think much of the time we'd be better off without all that shit but I do notice things like power structures among people. For instance, I find it easy and instinctive to identify the most powerful person in a room.
I think in some ways I'm more group oriented than the average introvert. I'm not one to just blindly conform but I do like feeling like I belong in groups- especially in groups that share common interests in values. I enjoy being in such groups.
For better or worse I tend to compare myself to the public at large a lot. I think alot about how I'm coming across to others and care what others think of me, even those I barely know and unlikely to ever meet again. I think this is the downside of being social first. It makes me rather self-conscious in public at times.
It's important for me to know that I'm serving some useful role in society. I want to make a lasting contribution that will continue to carry on long after I've died.
Given the choice I prefer to have a large number of acquaintances rather than a few close friends. I tend to put on a friendly, upbeat demeanor when meeting new people for the first time yet at the same time I'm guarded. I'm careful not to reveal too much personal about myself too soon. (I'm also SX last)
I think compared to other enneagram 5's, I'm more extraverted than most of them. Yet, like most fives, I definitely need a sufficient amount of quiet "me" time to feel whole.
I think in some ways I'm more group oriented than the average introvert. I'm not one to just blindly conform but I do like feeling like I belong in groups- especially in groups that share common interests in values. I enjoy being in such groups.
For better or worse I tend to compare myself to the public at large a lot. I think alot about how I'm coming across to others and care what others think of me, even those I barely know and unlikely to ever meet again. I think this is the downside of being social first. It makes me rather self-conscious in public at times.
It's important for me to know that I'm serving some useful role in society. I want to make a lasting contribution that will continue to carry on long after I've died.
Given the choice I prefer to have a large number of acquaintances rather than a few close friends. I tend to put on a friendly, upbeat demeanor when meeting new people for the first time yet at the same time I'm guarded. I'm careful not to reveal too much personal about myself too soon. (I'm also SX last)
I think compared to other enneagram 5's, I'm more extraverted than most of them. Yet, like most fives, I definitely need a sufficient amount of quiet "me" time to feel whole.
Just some additional things I want to add since I've made that post. Maybe it's because I'm a 5 and an introvert, but there are things typically attributed to so/sp that I just don't relate to:
I don't have a natural awareness of social conventions. I've had to learn as I've gotten older to pay attention to them more. In my childhood and teenage years, I made a whole lot of social faux pas.
I question most social conventions in our society rather than just blindly follow them.
so/sp is often considered a social climber. I don't relate to that. I don't care about being in the top social class or climbing the corporate ladder although I do want to be perceived as successful.
I've wondered if maybe another stacking is a better fit. I've seen myself as SX last largely because I've never felt that I needed to be in a relationship to feel fulfilled. I'm also afraid of too much intensity in relationships.- especially when it's too soon and I'm not ready to go there yet. Yet I really would like to find someone I could really be intimate with. I long to find someone I can truly have a deep conversation with and share my secrets and all my odd quirks. I guess what I fear is that the other person will be repelled by that so I hold parts of myself back so that I won't be rejected by the other person. So maybe I'm not SX last.
Regarding SP, I've always been a play it safe sort of person. I'm very careful about money. I don't take physical risks if I can help it. I like living a healthy lifestyle- eating right, exercising, no smoking or drinking. Yet, I'm not overly anal about it either. Sometimes I do let things slide, especially when I get busy or preoccupied with other things. I am highly sensitive to physical discomfort and things like temperature.
So vote in my poll and let me know what stacking you think fits best.