Coz it's adorable
My ENFP experience:
:steam::sad:
Coz it's adorable
I can see where the situation left both of you confused. I think you handled it to the best of your ability and shouldn't be faulted for what she read into the situation, especially after you outright warned her about the nature of your friendship.
Sorry that you had to go through all of that.. it's obvious that she doesn't have an appropriate level of maturity if she's still completely blaming you for the situation
Note to self: be very direct with INTPs
Coz it's adorable
yeah, it is freakin' adorable
Yeah, it's not like I fault her 100%. I know everything is a 2-way street, but it really did leave me pretty confused.
Yes. With us, there's really no reason not to be direct. It's better to put it out there and make it clear for us. We respond so much better when things are clear and out in the open. Put everything out on the table and let the chips fall where they may. It's healthy, it's low maintenance, and it allows for honesty and openness - at least that's my take on it.
The only confirmed INTP I know irl is my wife's best friend.
She's very opinionated, kind of bitchy, has a lot style, and is very smart.
She causes scenes everywhere she goes and treats cashiers, waiters, and other service workers like shit.
She's cold as ice, and comes off as a hardcore music/culture snob, an elitist, and a bossy know-it-all.
The first time I ever met her she told me bluntly that she thought I was an untrustworthy person, and that I was bad for her best friend. She said I was the type who would never stick around, and that I would just use her best friend and then leave when I got bored.
Boy was she wrong, because I was with her best friend exclusively for 2 years before getting married, and have we've been married for almost 7 years. I'm so untrustworthy and uncommited, and yet we haven't been apart for almost 9 years!
We have two kids now, and we've worked very hard together to make our marriage a good one. It hasn't been easy, but its been a whole lot easier since the meddlesome best friend got married and moved far away.
Long story short, she is a complex person, and though there are a lot of good things about her, I find her extremely draining to deal with.
If she weren't my wife's best friend I probably wouldn't give her the time of day, but since she is, I'm civil towards her. Thank God she lives on the other side of the country right now.
As I said, she's the only confirmed INTP I know irl and I'm not going to base my opinion of INTPs on her alone.
My experiences with INTPs on TypoC have all been pretty positive.
Thattaway to make an INTP blush. Compliment his Ti.
We're probably "trickster" figures to you (e.g. bad children). Would that be accurate? It would be similar to the whole ENTP-INFP clash currently going on elsewhere.I have trouble taking INTPs seriously. I'm not sure why.
We're probably "trickster" figures to you (e.g. bad children). Would that be accurate? It would be similar to the whole ENTP-INFP clash currently going on elsewhere.
The positive side of this, which you can see here, (http://www.centerpointec.com/files/typology_Development.pdf), is comedic relief, and that their dominant can become "one introverted function that had a sense of humor about introverted people and understood how to get along with them". (p.4)
We're probably "trickster" figures to you (e.g. bad children). Would that be accurate? It would be similar to the whole ENTP-INFP clash currently going on elsewhere.
The positive side of this, which you can see here, (http://www.centerpointec.com/files/typology_Development.pdf), is comedic relief, and that their dominant can become "one introverted function that had a sense of humor about introverted people and understood how to get along with them". (p.4)
Don't take'em from us...
Okay, go on. Play along with the INTPs, like it matters. Like I care. Hmpf
I believe that's a first for me. Not being taken seriously is not usually what one hears about INTPs.