Esoteric Wench
Professional Trickster
- Joined
- Dec 20, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 7w8
I have a good boss (ENFJ) who is a genuinely nice person. That being said, she totally doesn't know how to deal with or appreciate people with a P preference like me (ENFP). Because of this we've been clashing off and on for the past several months. Overall, I'd say our relationship is good, but she just can't handle it when I try to renegotiate a deadline (which I rarely, but occasionally do). And, when I'm under extreme stress, there have been a handful of times I've missed a deadline by what seems to me like a minimal amount of time (a few hours). (BTW, I can count these times on one hand over a two-year period).
I'm a marketing project manager who makes my deadlines 99% of the time, which means I've met hundreds of deadlines over the past two years. I take my deadlines very seriously and throw my heart and soul into meeting them. However, as a P, this can sometimes be a real struggle for me (especially when I'm under stress) which explains the 1% of the time I don't hit my deadlines exactly.
Frankly, I feel like 99% is the best this ENFP is going to ever do, so my goal is to help my boss appreciate the unique skill set I bring to her team as a P. I'm flexible and spontaneous. If a project changes mid-stream, I can drop everything and address it no problemo. Because I tend to be process oriented (P) vs. goal oriented (J), I tend to develop very creative solutions to problems that truly benefit her department.
So my question is this? How can I educate/convince my ENFJ boss that if she can show a little flexibility on deadlines, I'm well worth the effort?
Thanks, in advance, for your advice.
I'm a marketing project manager who makes my deadlines 99% of the time, which means I've met hundreds of deadlines over the past two years. I take my deadlines very seriously and throw my heart and soul into meeting them. However, as a P, this can sometimes be a real struggle for me (especially when I'm under stress) which explains the 1% of the time I don't hit my deadlines exactly.
Frankly, I feel like 99% is the best this ENFP is going to ever do, so my goal is to help my boss appreciate the unique skill set I bring to her team as a P. I'm flexible and spontaneous. If a project changes mid-stream, I can drop everything and address it no problemo. Because I tend to be process oriented (P) vs. goal oriented (J), I tend to develop very creative solutions to problems that truly benefit her department.
So my question is this? How can I educate/convince my ENFJ boss that if she can show a little flexibility on deadlines, I'm well worth the effort?
Thanks, in advance, for your advice.