1) What is your type (4w3 or 4w5) and instinctual variant, and how positive are you that your variant is accurate?
4w5 sp/sx. I am quite sure of being sp-dom.
2) How would you describe your overall focus when alone versus in social situations? EDIT: What are you focused on/thinking about?
When I am alone, I don't think much about people as far as wondering about their lives & missing interaction with them. More so, I think about my interests & other various musings & daydreams. I may long for one close relationship & fantasize about it, and if I am in one, then I may think of that person more than I think of people in general.
When I am around people, I can unfortunately come across as aloof, snobby, & unfriendly or dull, timid & withdrawn. My focus can be on becoming/staying emotionally & physically comfortable, but that can include others' comfort as well. I tend to easily notice if someone or something is uncomfortable & often know how to fix it. Once that is in order, I usually prefer one-on-one conversation that delves into meatier matters, something that reveals their inner person, something we can bond over.
I'm also a massive loner & tend to go off & do my own thing without telling anyone. Maintaining my independence is hugely important to me.
3) How would you describe your interaction style when in a group?
I'm painfully oblivious to group dynamics & can fade into the walls in a group setting. If it's a small group I am very comfortable with, then I still tend to focus on one person at a time when I interact. Because I seek out one person at a time, it can come across as too intense, maybe even clingy. I just have a hard time addressing a group & finding a role among one. Honestly, groups feel shallow & tedious to me, so I may even be tuning them out.
If it's a project of sorts, I either back off & do as little as possible, especially if the responsibility will infringe on my freedom, or I inadvertently become the leader because I'm quick to come up with ideas & oblivious to the unspoken social rule that this pegs you as the leader.
4) How would you describe your interaction style in one-on-one situations?
I respond best to one-on-one conversations, and if comfortable with that person & engaged in the topic, then I can become intense & even animated. This either draws people in or weirds them out.
5) How well does this description of your variant fit you?
It fits me very well.
6) How did you decide on your variant? Was there anything that gave it away, or else made you change your mind from what you previously thought it was?
I read descriptions & sp/sx & sx/sp stood out, then I read more descriptions & decided sp was my dominant instinct. I usually test sp/sx also.
As for why it fits me.... I don't really define myself in terms of the group, can be oblivious to my role in one & its inner-workings, but I also am not threatened by groups so much as disinterested. Some so-dom are outside the group & often critical of it, but it seems to me they have an awareness & active aversion to the group, so that in effect it steers their behavior. My main instinct coming into a new situation is to get comfortable, emotionally & physically. I do have a great longing for intense connection & experience, but I will rarely risk my emotional safety for it, give up my independence for it, or compromise my comfort. I see sx-dom as leaving the comfort zone, taking the risks, giving themselves up to things, and also generally being more charming/magnetic to people. I come across pretty aloof & self-contained, and am easily distracted with my own needs over connecting with others.